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| Mon, 05-29-2006 - 2:21pm |
I'm fairly certain that my husband is a "crazymaker" but I would appreciate some feedback. although there have been lots of instances (increasing in frequency lately), I will describe the most recent one and perhaps someone will give me some insight.
My youngest daughter plays basketball on a select team. This past weekend there was a tournament that involved two games per day. My husband didn't go to the first game on Sunday, and so on the way home my daughter asked me if we could look at some shoes - something that the girls wear to the court instead of their basketball shoes. I said sure and we went to the shoe store. Her basketball shoes were also 3 years old, and were never proper bball shoes to begin with, and were beginning to slide on the floor - I had mentioned to my husband earlier that she probably needed some, but as she has quite large feet her choices were limited and the selection quite expensive, unless she looked at men's shoes. So, they didn't have the slipons that she was looking for, but they did have a good sale on bball shoes - she wanted a pair of black ones, as she thought they would make her feet look smaller. The brand was And1, which most of the girls wear, and they were on sale for $59, which was alot better than the $130 I had thought to spend. I should note here that I have always bought the girls their clothes and shoes - my husband had occasionally gone with them to buy gym shoes, but this was primarily something I have done for the past 15 years. My husband called while we were at the store, and I said that my daughter was trying on some shoes, but that they didn't have her size. he really didn't say anything, and asked me to bring home some treats for the dog. We ended up buying a pair that fit my daughter - at least they appear to and she's happy. This is a 14 year old girl who is 6 feet tall, has size 12 feet, bad skin and weighs 125 lbs. If she likes the way the shoes look that is good enough for me - it's all about building her self esteem, and not what I think. At least that's my perspective. I figure as long as the shoes do the job and they fit, what they look like is not my concern.
We arrived home with the shoes and all hell broke loose. According to my husband I bought cheap shoes without his permission - he had wanted to go and buy them with her (even though he never said that to me). The end result was my daughter in bed crying, telling her dad she hates him for being so mean, him saying he is now not going to watch her second game because why would he watch someone who hates him, him telling me that I am a loser and I had planned it all to discredit him, and I do everything to make myself the "big shot" in the family, and now I am dragging my daughters into my "ugliness". All of this for a pair of shoes.
this is an example of what goes on - it happens quite frequently. I never win or come equal in an argument or discussion - I always end up standing there thinking that I know that I'm not wrong, or not that bad, but somehow everything has been twisted to make me feel that way.
Any feedback or comments?
| Mon, 05-29-2006 - 3:41pm |


