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Registered: 07-22-2006
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Fri, 07-28-2006 - 4:26pm

I planned to tell the truth to the investigator but he came in not believing my ds and interviewed us all at the same time. He says that this looks like a "typical" custody case and not an abuse case. He says he sees false claims like this one every day. I feel awful. I was afraid to speak up especially after he said that my ex is trying to terminate my parental rights and that I could be in trouble for neglect if indeed I did not protect my ds from abuse. The investigator was giving me tips on how to get custody of my ds. I'm desperate! I want my ds back!

The complaint was long and listed all kinds of stuff. None of it had to do with me abusing my ds though. I'm at least glad about that because I have and would never abuse my child.

I'm just wondering how the courts look at "weed" in custody cases? Does anybody know? I would not pass a drug test. I do not and have never smoked when my ds was around. I only do it when he is not here or when he is fast asleep at night. It relaxes me. I promise that my ds is NOT in any way affected by my drug use.

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Registered: 01-10-2005
In reply to: eyeore42
Fri, 07-28-2006 - 5:26pm
Any type of drug use will not look good on your part. Please know that I am not judging you in any way.But if you truly want to keep your children you have to stop.And if they already know that you use,the best thing you can do is show that you are getting help for it.I know how stressful custody cases can be, believe me..I've been there.But you have to walk an incredibly straight line when it comes to getting custody.The smallest thing can cause you to lose your kids.It's obvious you love them, just do what's right for them.
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Registered: 06-26-2004
In reply to: eyeore42
Sun, 07-30-2006 - 4:46pm

You gotta "keep your side of the street clean" if you ever wanna have a chance at getting your babies back. You gotta stay off the drugs, live a clean, positive and healthy life. Set a good example for your kids. Get a job and get out of the lifestyle you're living. Get away from these characters you live with. You gotta live straight and narrow.

I don't think you have respect for yourself. Start doing good things and build yourself up to a better life. Right now you're dependent on people who are no good. You deserve better. Work on yourself and your self esteem. Don't wanna preach to ya, but you need to do some things to help yourself. KWIM? You don't want your kids thinking negative of you.