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| Wed, 09-14-2005 - 3:39pm |
I can't deal with my abusive, unreasonable ex husband anymore. For all of you that have read my previous posts, I was attempting to modify this ridiculous visitation schedule set in place.
I've tried talking to the ex, asking him if we could get it changed to something more predictable for the kids. He's got a screwed up work schedule, and can't be here any certain time for pick ups and drop offs. He can get them three weekends out of the month, weekends aren't specified, from 3;30 fri til 7;30 sun. He has access to them anytime during these weekends, cause of his rotating work schedule. It's absolutely horrible to work around. His wife could be here for certain drop off pick up times, but I hate doing that knowing he won't be home.
I talked to my attorney today. Bottom line is...I'm screwed. This system is so screwed. He also has the right to first refusal, which means every time I leave the kids with a babysitter on my time he can come get them. Lawyer says he has to default, agree, agree to mediation to get anything changed, and even then she doesn't see the judge reducing his time, more likely increasing it.
So I'm stuck, I have to bend around his work schedule and bend over backwards around all this til God knows how long. After finding this out today, I'm very upset, I feel like just crawling off and dying somewhere. We have a completely disruptive, chaotic schedule, no one knows what anyone is doing from one weekend to the next. It sux.
Then he schedules things when the kids have breaks out of school, he gets the kids all excited, and then I'm the bad guy if I don't let them go. I tell you, it was easier being married to the jerk putting up with all his crap. Now he can do all this crap, and I've lost the control I had over the kids, their schedules, and their routines for a good percentage of the time.
This system is soooo screwed up.
