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Registered: 01-24-2005
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Fri, 02-11-2005 - 3:13pm

Good afternoon all.

I secretly applied for a job and Wed. was called for the position. YEAH. I started this morning. When I told the spouse on Wed Night that I had work, HE was NOT happy. Oh, my, you could see the thoughts that were going through his mind. I waited until we were alone to tell him. He thanked me for that. He doesn't want his family to know what a butt he is. They know, just no body talks about it. They all know that when I leave, they will have to deal with him, so they are all so very nice when they think that I am feed up.
So this morning, he got up to go to work and said "Have a Great Day!!" It was with that sick voice that I just thought oh, yeah, I intend to have a great day. He is mad, because he would not pay for my pickup and I had to let it go, so I am afoot. My parents are taking me back and forth to make sure that I have a guaranteed way. It is 40 miles away. I am paying them for the gasoline. Soon, I will have my own vehicle again.

He said to think about where I wanted to eat for Valentine's, I asked who was paying Him or Me? (I have some money right now, and he knows it, he can't find it, because I put it in my bank account). He didn't think that that was funny.

He keeps saying that my family is trying to convince me to leave and that I need to stay away if I want to keep him happy. Told him point blank that that is isolationism and abuse and he needed to back off.

Where do we find these boys in mens bodies? So much more that I could just dump on right now, but he has a new job that goes right by the house and likes to drop in unexpectedly to check on me. Would you like a list? Oh, my gosh, and it is more noticeable everyday, I guess because I have actually come to accept this fact that I have married an abusive man. He has not hit me. But there are accidents that are questionable sometimes. His favorite is to threaten.

I should have known better.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: creativemind1000
Fri, 02-11-2005 - 3:41pm

Yay on the job!

CL-Blueliner4