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| Fri, 07-23-2004 - 12:16am |
Just wanted to write an update for all.
Court starts August 10, still really really nervous about the trial, but I know that the truth is on my side. Attn thinks that we are going to win, I just have to keep my cool on the stand. I have had some bad days, but recently mostly good days. I still jump, when I hear a noise outside, even though I know he is in jail. I dont know if I will ever feel totally safe again.
I have sold my home, and found a new home in another state. I am now in the process of trying to buy new home. (It will not be in my name) It is a beautiful house.
My oldest brother is still here with me. My other brothers are visiting when they can and calling me all of the time.
I have dealt with my x for several years by myself. I was to ashamed and scared to ask for help. Then I found this board....and now I know I am not alone and I have to thank all of yall for your advice and for your prayers. I am on the way to freedom, I can see it now, I couldnt before. There is just no words to express what this board has done for me.
Thanks is the best that I can do.
Van

And thanks is more than enough.
CL-Blueliner4
Mel
Just a thought on your upcoming court dates, you can request that you have an advocate to acompany you in court. Just someone who along with your attourney, knows and understands how nervous you will be and they can help you through all of this. Use all the resources available to you so that you can get through and done with all of this quicker and easier. Let the advocate and your attourney tell the judge that your having to be within sight of your abuser due to his violent attacks on you make you extremely scared, they do understand and maybe can keep your time in the courtroom to a minimum. Maybe they can even have you wait in the judge's chambers or other safe place so that you do not have to even be in the courtroom at the same time!
I hope you keep us posted as you can and know that you are welcome here at anytime throughout the rest of your life! You have shown so many that it can be done in severe circumstances, that freedom is available to all! You truly are a strong woman, one who can survive and live to sing and dance whenever the mood suits you! :) And to think that you will be able to sleep and dance in your new house whenever, it just doesn't get any better than that!! :)
Stay stong Van,,stay true to your path, stay true to yourself!! You are the inspiration that keeps us all going!!
Hugest Hugs