update from court on thursday

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Registered: 05-03-2003
update from court on thursday
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Sat, 04-17-2004 - 9:23am
Wanted to give an update. Court was on Thursday for the temp restraining order and the domestic violence charges. I went and he never showed up. I could not believe that he did not go. I felt sort of relieved because I did not have to see him though. I went for the permanent restraining order. I all got the courts to set up child support, counciling for our son in which he has to pay for, he has to go to angry management counciling, pay 250 dollars civil penalty, pay for the damages to my house and phones. About a couple hours after court he calls and tells me he did not know the time and stuff I started screaming at him for not going and for all the years of hell he put me through. He wanted to get the rest of his stuff and stupid me let him come by. I was so vulerable and should have never let him do that. We ended up having sex and I ended up giving him the rest of his clothes and tools and even his car.(the car is in my name). I woke up yesterday thinking how stupid I am why did I have sex with him and why did I let him take the car. I spent most of the day beating myself up about everything. He has a new girlfriend who he lives with. He cheated on her with me so that just shows what a pig he really is. After spending the majority of the day beating myself up for confusing myself once again and making myself feel like crap. He will neve change. He is a cheat, liar, and an abuser. He still feels he did nothing wrong to me. He took 7 years of my life away. I vowed yesterday that I will not have any contact with him at all. I will not answer any of his calls every again. He will never change and I need to realize that it is over and accept it and move on. I have to make myself believe again that it was not my fault and start thinking about all the times he hurt me physically and emotionally over the years. It had just got worse and worse over the years and I had enough. He is seeing 1 to 6 yrs for what he did to me and I will not back down this time and allow him to get away with this anymore. My friend was able to give him a message that I needed my car and cell phone by last night or I would have to call the police. When I got home last night it was there so that was good. I still feel bad and I am really hurt. I still am having a hard time getting over the fact that he is with someone else and that he truley feels that he did nothing wrong. I am going to be strong though and really tried to stick to my guns. I was unhappy for so long but for some reason it was comfortable for me. Just wanted to give an update. thanks for the advise and support
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 04-18-2004 - 1:17am

Thank you so much for the update.


As for him not showing up, it worked out great for you.

CL-Blueliner4