Update one DS

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Update one DS
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Sat, 12-03-2011 - 10:25pm

Yesterday I realy thought I would be calling the police on him but he did good. Him and my oldest DD's bf were playing around and broke the glass on the front door. When DS called to tell me I fipped out. I thought they broke a window and we have nice expensive windows and I had no idea how I would pay for it. But what he broke I broke four years ago myelf and I settled down once I reaized that but my oldest flipped. She thought the landlord would throw us out over it and was mad because she has told them a million times to not wrestle. She was screaming at DS and he was screaming back. I was in the middle trying to get them both to settle down and realize it was not that big of a deal. He was swearing at us both but never once even hinted at it getting phyisical. This is good for him but it also isn't one of his bad times of year but with the way she was yelling at him in the past it wouldn't have mattered he woud have at least gotten in her or my face but all we had was the f word flying like crazy (sigh). Next month is when he normally has a major melt down and I am really hoping his good behavior keeps up because he will be 16 at the end of this month so if I have to call the police it wont be like the times before. He even told me when I was freaking out on the phone that when he gets a job he would pay me back for the window when he gets a job, says he is getting one when he turns 16.


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Sun, 12-04-2011 - 6:57pm

Hey brat, sounds like things are looking up around your place, aside from the broken window.

Mama Harmony

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Sun, 12-04-2011 - 9:42pm

We just started talking about the trigger dates. His counselor wanted to see if we could get past them without thinking about them and thought if we talked about them then he would have an excuse. But after I called the police on him in May I said we were done with that approach because it was not working. I had realized with me when I realized the trigger dates were setting me off I was able to deal with it easier and he is like me some so now I let him know when trigger dates are approaching. I won't bring up the next one till I see things starting and if we get past January without a major melt down I will tell him he made it past one. I told him I was proud of him for how he handled the other day but that the f word needed to not fly so much. He told me it is a normal word for teens ahh!! LOL. I did tell him I did not care if it was I don't want to hear it. But I can handle that over what I thought was going to happen. He also knows he has to keep the temper in check in order to get his permit and then be able to drive. I hate to use driving that way but if he can't control his temper then he can't drive so I have no choice.

I have always tried to teach them to fess up ahead of time because if they told me then less punishment and if they lied the punishment for lying was always worse then what ever they did. I use to hate that my ex would lie over things he didn't need to and my children learned quick that lying carried the worse punishment. DS tells me all the time when he thinks he did something at school that will get the vice principal to call me and well we are trying to figure that guy out. I get a call because DS called a girl something that sounds like witch but my oldest threatens to kill tow boys over calling her the c word and I don't get a call.

I think DS is also learning I over react and to let me calm down too, LOL. The girls think he is afraid I will call the cops on him again if I have to and I do think that's part of it I hope it is also he is maturing and we are going to break the cycle of abuse with him. Now to work on my oldest who has been in witch mode for awhile and I feel sorry for anyone who ticks her off. Today it was my father (sigh). Not sure what to do about her behavior.


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