update from Smiletot

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Registered: 06-15-2004
update from Smiletot
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Sat, 08-14-2004 - 5:44pm
Its been a while since I posted. For those who are new I was married to a very abusive for 12 years. My boys and I exscaped september 30,2003. We had to leave state to feel safe. We left our whole family behind and moved where we didn't know anyone. My kids left all of there things behind. I had to quit college that tok me several years to get the courage to go back to. But I knew we couldn't stay in our home or our home town and be safe from him.

Since then we have had alot of obsticale to over come. Two of my children were daignosised with Bipolor 1 and one of them also have post tramatic stress disorder and ADHD, my third child has detereating hips. I thought I was losing my mind there for a long time. But with counseling things have slowly gotten better.

The boys start school soon. And I start back to college August 29, which I'm very excited about. I will have my bachelors degree by April 2006 in Archetecture. We are doing good now the boys are happier now they still miss are family alot. But I know what I have to do to keep them safe.

There father calls every once and a while. but they boys don't seem to care one way or another weather he does or not. I still have my days where I doubt myself and my desicions and I have my days that I feel like crying and screaming. But then I look at my boys I know with out a doubt that I did the right thing for us.

I'm still very angry at my ex and there are times I want to hurt him like the way he hurt my boys and me. I hope someone can learn from my story and not make some of the mistakes I did.

Lots of Hugs,

Christy

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Sun, 08-15-2004 - 11:58pm

Woo-hoo!


You go, girl!

CL-Blueliner4