update from smiley

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Registered: 06-15-2004
update from smiley
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Tue, 06-29-2004 - 1:58pm
Just wanted to let everyone know that my kids and I are doing good. Their councelor is doing a great job. I'm very impressed with how their getting my oldest to open up. Not to many people can. I told my councelor that I had been talking to some women on ivillage aboutdomestic violence and she thinks its great.

My ex last week pulled one of his stunts and said he was going to terminate his parental rights. Because I maved out of state and its going to cost him about 15,000 to make us come back and he can't leave his state because he's on probation. So he calls and says I when and he'll sign the papers. I was torn because YES HE'LL BE OUT OF OUR LIVES FOR GOOD!!! Then I think How could you even consider giving up your kids. I'd fight tooth and nail for my kids. He just seems to have given up. (MAYBE IF HES NOT PLAYING HEAD GAMES AGAIN)

My kids have been really good this weekend. I guess because I was always upset and worried I had them all in a knot. Now that I starting to relax I'm calmer and I don't panic like I usually do. Just something has come over me that i realize that yes I need to be on guard but also I need to be able to live my life the way I want and thats what I'm going to do. I'm really glad I found this board.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Tue, 06-29-2004 - 2:47pm
Oh, and it only gets better. Leaving seems so hard, but isn't it worth it? My children are in counseling to and besides leaving it was the best thing I could have done. It seems so hard to regain respect from them after all you put yourself through. When they have to witness those things. I'm glad to are taking the right steps to rebuild their lives back. Good job!!!

Mel