Updated on me and the guy I like

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Updated on me and the guy I like
Fri, 07-07-2006 - 10:37am

I talked to the guy who was interested in me and I really liked, but had the situation with the girl he was dating casually for the last few years. He said that after we went out he told his parents that he was done with this girl and wanted to leave her. He said that he is totally himself with me and that he can't be himself with her. His mom brought up that she owes him around 8000 and he should really have her sign something agreeing to pay him back before he makes her really mad and ends it for good. He also told me that he doesn't see any future with her and she isn't someone he would want to be with as a married couple or family. He said since then he's been trying to see what he can do to a-bring up the conversation with her about the money and b-kiss up a little to get her to sign something so he can cut all ties with her. He also said it's a little scary that he likes me alot, but it's just scary ending it with her completely and then seeing where things go with me as even though he's miserable he does know the deal with her good bad and ugly. I told him I know the feeling I've been in the same boat and it gets to a point where you can't move forward with your life anymore with that person so you have no choice then to leave. He said that was it exactly. I said I told you I wasn't going anywhere and he said yes, but if I meet someone else I like more than him he understands and he won't be mad at me and we will still be friends. I told him that that would not be a problem, but thanked him for the space and respect. I also suggested we continue to talk and do things together while he sees what he can do to get something in writting about the money. He liked that idea and we are going to talk again when he gets back in town next week. I also know he would have wanted to go out with me again if he wasn't going out of town to help someone move so that's nice to know. I said hey now I just said we could not have sex until you resolved things for good with her, I didn't say I didn't want to see or talk to you or not do things together. I said why don't we just test the water and see how things go and work on the contract deal. I know that's an issue just walking away from that he's see several people lose 1000s by ending things and not having any contract to pay them back in place so I understand where he's coming from.

I know it sounds like he's playing me, but to know him is to know he's the real deal and this is as far as he's come ever in moving forward with his life. I know he really likes me and his heart's with me so I'll just see what happens from here. That said I am still alive and yes still talk to others although Chris and I click really well. He feels like home when we are together and that scares me as well. He stutters cause I make him so nervous and I just discombobblated about the whole thing. Up to now, he's done the driving and pursued me so I'm going to continue to let him drive. I'm just giving him the boundaries and things I need to be happy spelled out.