Uplifting Movies About DV? And, a small pity party.

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Uplifting Movies About DV? And, a small pity party.
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Tue, 10-25-2011 - 1:31pm

Recently my husband rented the movie The Caller. We've been on this kick of watching spooky or horror movies and the trailed for this one looked pretty creepy. What I wasn't expecting was the domestic violence subplot of an abused woman going through a divorce and her husband stalking her despite a restaining order. I could tell that subplot was going to climax with some type of violence, but it held off until the final few minutes when the STBX hits the woman. I had my typical reaction - look away and start crying. I think I have mastered the silent cry - tear fall but I don't make a sound at all, so no one can usually notice. I had been getting so much better, but that seemed to kick off the last week of nightmares. Luckily, I'm not sleeping much these days with the newborn, but this was a little wakeup call that, no - I'm not "all better" and I don't really think I'll ever be.

But, in trying to look at this in a better light, can we think of any movies that are actually uplifting with domestic violence themes. any stories of survivors... preferably not where they kill the abuser, which tends to be the most common solution. Not all of us can play out that scenario.

I know in the next few months, my child support update case will be going to court and I will forced to see the xh again. I think while putting it off was an excellent idea at the time, now it just is staying in the back of my mind as a looming event.

And, along the same lines, I know my dh was trying to be sweet by saying he wished he had met me when we were young, so I would never have gone through any of the mess and have gotten hurt so badly, but in saying that he just reaffirmed that I am in fact still damaged.

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Chipper, damaged?

Mama Harmony

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Thanks cajun. i definitely have been through enough counseling to last a lifetime. And, the PTSD - definitely more than a touch. I don't seek out movies with DV themes, but I can't recall ever seeing one where the abuser didn't die in the end.

Both kids are doing great. We're still trying to get life back to normal post-maternity leave. Maybe another month or so and things will get into a better pattern. We're freaking out about money right now. Jasper (the baby) seems to be growing everyday.

OH!!!! Remember how my son had a trauma induced articulation disorder? I had him re-evaluated by the speech pathologist in the new area we moved to - and now he's ahead of the game. His speech is right where it should be and his vocabulary is outstanding. I'm so proud of the little guy.