Vent but a little ray of hope maybe...

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Registered: 11-04-2004
Vent but a little ray of hope maybe...
Tue, 02-14-2006 - 1:37pm

Hi ladies:

The mind games with my DH and DD are just soooo overwhelming. My friends and family well for all intense and purposes I have lost them, cuz they just don't want to hear it anymore. No one but you ladies here understand, that maybe just maybe we can't just get up and leave it is not easy.

My DH lets my l8 yr old dd do over the top things, I swear just to tick me off. She is a chip off the old block in the verbal abuse she gives to me. My DH says alot of l8 yrs old do this...I don't think so like "if I had a knife I would really stab you", she has already hit twice. I have started to make notes and she caught me, and went off the wall, wonder why, and he started screaming at me for taking notes on her beligerent violent behaviors. This wknd with the stabbing and hitting threat was about the closest I have ever come to calling the cops on her, my DH was livid. He said I had better not. I can't even talk to me dd anymore, DH says this is best. He loves drawing a wedge between us. He tells me when she is disrespectful I should not let her use the car, when I don't he said I "make excuses" for her NOT to have the car...so not true she has used it three wks in a row. I feel like I am rambling here but I am wondering:

1. Have your friendsfamily had it with hearing and not understand at all. My mom g. daughter, sis, say dd is great, I am lucky she is fine, and I am nuts.

2. Has anyone else teen following in the abusers foot steps so you are tag teamed?

This is sooo hard I feel like going to the ER to be admitted to the mental health ward. She is having a sr. nite for sports in which both parent are supposed to go. Would you? Would u front like everything was fine after being threatened a called a whore. And when you queston her on it, she tries to justify it? I want her to look at the sr. nite parents and see just her dad, and remember whore and stab me, over and over again so she can start feeling. I do everything for her I live my life for my kids and this is what I get. He is yes man, and sugar daddie who gives her everything. I do the dr's appt., remind about chores, help her with everything and stepped on. I guess that can't compete with $200 Coach purses an trips to Austria.

Anyway thanks for letting me ramble, little ray of hope is I have to call back later for counselor appt. from the domestic abuse place. I really hope it helps get my head back on rite.

If you read this far, thanks for listening sooo much.