venting

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Registered: 04-21-2004
venting
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Mon, 06-14-2004 - 10:01am
Just needing to vent....

We have been planning a small vacation for a little while now, nothing big, husband is taking 3 days off of work and we are going to a couple theme parks with the boys. Our oldest son just got a job, he went to orientation on Saturday, and although we had told him to make sure that he got Wednesday-Friday off of work, they have him scheduled off for Thursday and Friday. I suggested to H that we go those two days instead of Wednesday and Thursday as we had been planning. Well, of course that was the wrong thing to even bring up. So while we were at the grocery store, he decides that's the time to start in about it...."I;m the one who works 50 weeks a year, why should I have to change my vacation plans just because he just got a job. He gets to go to movies when he wants to, he has been to (a different theme park) without us, we'll just go without him. Why is it I get no consideration around here, noone ever does anything I want, we always have to do what everyone else wants to do".

Maybe I was wrong to even bring it up, but since he does have those 3 days off, I figured what's the difference if we go these two, or the other two. I didn't expect his temper tantrum about it (in the grocery store much less). I also didn't expect his childish ravings about an 18yo being able to go to movies when he wants, etc. isn't that what an 18yo does???

He has become more childish lately, complaining about what his boys get to do, and where they get to go. Good grief, he really does need to grow up.

I found out later in the day, that yesterday morning, while I was at work, he was ranting and raving at the 9yo for having left some dvd's out, and one of them got scratched (but still plays fine), I guess he decided if he "thumped" him on the head it would help him remember. There is no mark, son says he's fine, but H is becoming more and more physical, and yelling at swearing at the 9yo more often now.

I am becoming more resolve in my plans/thoughts of leaving, financially it's just not in the cards right now. I'm still waiting to hear from the music supervisor to see if I am even going to be considered for a position this fall. I sent in my resume last week, and now am just waiting. I hate waiting.

anyway, just needed to vent. Thanks for listening.

Lori

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: jljz
Mon, 06-14-2004 - 9:01pm
jliz,

waiting is such a difficult thing to do. I feel like I've been waiting my entire life!! What type of music job are you trying for?

Boy these guys just keep on keeping on. They don't even realize that they are giving us fuel for our fire - to leave. They are very stuck on themselves, even if they aren't confident.

Go figure. Hang in there, keep making your plans. Remember this is just another confirmation that you are doing the right thing!

ples