Violated Protective Order - within 48hrs

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Violated Protective Order - within 48hrs
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Tue, 04-04-2006 - 11:01am

Filed protective order. they finally found and served him 8/2 8:13am
I recieved this message today at 8:11 this morning from his work email:

I cant believe you do this to me, so i am charging you also with
adultery, assult and battery and harrasment, all evidence will be shown
to the court. And also, dont forget to bring your family. A cop will be
there to gave this charges to you....how could you M.

-- i called sherrif and they will be issuing warrant and getting him at work today
i never harrassed.. assault/battery was fighting back.. adultery - that's news to me.

when i filed i spoke with counselor who said he will do anything to get back or prove innocent - signs of abuser to turn things around? Also i have hospital assault record from Jan - that's all i have, but constant emails from fam of what he's done in writing

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Registered: 03-22-2006
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 12:46pm

i called magistrate office early this morning to find out why he was out
he said no bail, but judge released pending 5/9 on protective order violation
come to find out - late last night ex-soon to be - filed assualt charges against me
i went to the womans proteciton place first to consult
i turned myself in and magistrate set arraignment next monday
it was in defensive of him holding me down. he said i hit him with glass..if so - i woudl have a cut too on that..so i dunno...i'm emotional wreck but here at work to get through keeping my mind busy

this magistrate said the bickering has to stop with us. i'm just standing for my rights and it just turns on me.'

want to get attorney for all this. the one there at womans shelter seemed cold to me.
i want divorce and want to also go do something about not only physical/but emotional degrading/abuse.. therapy/driving/need to find my own place/

i'm lost in this. only rec hosp 1/5... his fam willl not testify too all bruises i've gotten. figure turned myself in before they picked me up at work..but had womans laws service with me

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Registered: 10-05-2004
Fri, 04-07-2006 - 1:51pm
You absolutely want to get a lawyer. This is a very common abuser tactic, but you need a lawyer to help you straighten it out. If you don't like the woman at the shelter, you can find another one, but make SURE they specialize in DV. If I haven't given you the link already, check out www.womenslaw.org for ideas on how to find a good lawyer.
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Registered: 10-21-2004
Fri, 04-14-2006 - 10:22am
How are things going, Antiemm? Haven't heard from you since last week, how did your hearing go? I hope you weren't jailed!
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Registered: 03-22-2006
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 8:30am

Good Morning
It went fine this past Thurs. I ended up getting atty - non court appointed. I'm not in jail. The hearing is 5/12 for me on that. The court protective order thing was this past Thurs. His side-brought family/friends/inlaws/lawyer. My lawyer showed up last minute so they were surprised i had representation. He request protective order moved until 5/8 hearing. That's the hearing of is protective order violation and assault. From there, we may get 5/12 removed, depending on sentencing of his violation.

I'm hanging in. Just have to do payments for this lawyer and that's fine, just have to keep myself busy, besides this awful cold or whatever that just came through.

So-I felt great to get atty because I really didnt have to say anything. He did all work/talking. The pro-bono one via the shelter I didn't care for - she had cold attitude. At least I feel comfortable with this one.

Hope eveyrone is o k. i'll be back.

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Sat, 04-15-2006 - 10:02pm
Just hang in there - keep EVERY single piece of evidence you have & DONT CONTACT HIM BACK.

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