We got him!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-14-2005
We got him!
4
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 9:01am

Thanks for all your wonderful advice during this last year. You all helped me to to recover myself and trust my own perceptions again, and you helped me to understand that what I was going through wasn't normal or acceptable, that it was abuse.

As you know, my ex has been sending me death threats. I traced his emails back to his server and sent all the info I had to the abuse control department at his server. They were able to trace all the emails to one person. They told me to have law enforcement get in touch with them.

Last night, I was able to file a report with the police, and a detective will be assigned to my case. The woman who took my information asked if I was willing to prosecute, and I said that I was. There's no doubt in my mind about that.

It's been a year since I broke up with him! A year yesterday! That was the day he terrified me and hit me in my own home. Since that time, even when he was court-ordered to leave me alone, he hasn't. He's still called, sent emails, and for all I know he's been doing drive-bys in the dark when the neighbors aren't paying attention.

I'm completely on edge, jumping at every sound, and having trouble sleeping. I want this over NOW!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-25-2002
In reply to: riotgirrrl
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 10:36am

Congratulations on your ONE year!!

You are on the right path... keep going! It is still one day at a time, one choice at a time. Keep looking at all the positives, we all have a dose of "healthy" fear of our abuser. What I mean by that is the knowledge that staying with them isn't safe. But the anxiety (the fear that keeps us from moving on) will disappear a little at a time until you won't even recognize it anymore.

Great job!!

Love,
Loonybunny

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-12-2003
In reply to: riotgirrrl
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 11:10am

Well, happy freedom anniversary to you!

CL-Blueliner4

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2005
In reply to: riotgirrrl
Fri, 01-20-2006 - 6:23pm
Riot!

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: riotgirrrl
Sun, 01-22-2006 - 12:22am
You are a HERO!

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