Wedding Photos Are Here!

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Registered: 05-27-2003
Wedding Photos Are Here!
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 2:05pm

Hi Everyone! I apologize for not putting this down in the Off Topic section, I was just anxious for all of you to see it quickly! Saturday was my wedding day and I have posted a few of the pics to my website. I miss everyone here so much, and I'll admit I haven't had much time to read lately with all this wedding stuff going on, but I promise to catch up soon.......after the cruise, for sure. We leave Nov. 27th and will be sailing to the Western Caribbean for 7 days. I am so excited! There IS life after abuse, and it IS worthwhile! I can remember a time when I would have never thought I would ever utter such words, and I'm sure some of you here feel the same way right now. For those of you who don't know me, I won't go into long detail here. I will just say I spent 6 years in a relationship that had almost every kind of abuse: Physical, Emotional, Financial, Verbal, etc. etc. and I was stalked for a long time by my abuser after I left. Not necessarily in a dangerour way, but in an unrelenting one. He has even tried to keep in contact with me since I moved away, and I heard from him again just before my wedding. No matter tho, I wouldn't go back to that life for anything in the world! However, there was a time when I thought I might not ever get over him. The loss of my home, and everything I was familiar and comfortable with seemed much more powerful than my ability to move on. This board was my refuge and my savior during that time, and after I escaped I spent time as a CL here, so some of you know me, and other newer ones won't. But all you really need to know is peace and love is waiting for you on the other side of the abuse, even if you can't imagine there ever could be. It took me a long time to get over the abuse, but I gave in to that time and allowed myself to heal slowly and thoroughly before moving on. I felt the pain, the loss, and all that came with it, and I felt it to the highest of highest degrees, but I was determined to grit my teeth, dig my heels in, and not go back. Sheer will, stubborness, and time will do wonders! After almost 4 1/2 years out, I have now married the most gentle, wonderful man on earth. I let God choose this one, and he did a great job!

Ok, enuf of that! Here is the link to the pics! Monet, Jill, and Mindspeak, if you all see this, I would love to hear from you! I miss you all so much! I want to say Hi and send love also to Mama Harmony, Sparklit,Gabby, and OMGosh, there are just too many to mention, but you all know who you are! I Love Ya!

http://pages.ivillage.com/jeepgirl_2/id5.html

If this doesn't open go to http://pages.ivillage.com/jeepgirl_2 and then go to the Wedding Pics page!

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 6:58am

Jeepster!!

*********!!!!!!!!!CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!**************

I, like so many others, couldn't be happier for you as well.

It's odd, just yesterday, I was cleaning out some old "files" that I had and one of the printouts that I have was your reply to my first ever post here. Your kind and caring thoughts and guidance were extrememly helpful at a time of confusion for me. For all your words of encouragement, to not only me but everyone here, I thank you.

You truly have gotten what you deserve. A gorgeous Chloe, and a wonderful husband. I love the house as well! Oh, did I mention I like the jeep too! I drive an 04 wrangler and love it.

Take care of yourself and your precious family.

Pam

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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 9:29pm

HI Sweetie, Thank You! I was so happy to see your post! I have been thinking about everyone here a lot, too, and hoping all of you are safe and well.

I must confess that my website needs a clean up badly! That house is the one my evil ex and I lived in, and actually, he still does. I also sold the Jeep because his name was on the title and the loan was also in his name, and he threatened me with it every single day. I wanted to get rid of any last hold he had on my life, so I decided it was time to get transportation that was 100% Mine! You can't imagine the freedom I felt when I parked that Jeep in front of our office and called him to tell him the thing he threatened me with daily was now all his! LOL OMG, it felt like a thousand pound weight was immediately lifted off my shoulders. Like I was finally free and independent. I can't even explain adequately how good it really felt. It was Amazing. Needless to say, as soon as he had it he no longer wanted it and practically begged me to take it back! LOL They are SO predictable.

Anyway, I live in an entirely different city now, and am so glad that I do! I am so glad to hear from you, and I truly hope things are going well in your life. I promise to catch up on everything very soon!

Hugs and Love!
Jeeps

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Fri, 11-19-2004 - 11:13am

Blessings to you, Jeepster, and your new husband in your marriage. May you always be surrounded with love.

My heart goes out to you both.

Love,

Christine

Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Registered: 11-04-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 12:23pm

Jeepster, I'm so thrilled for you!

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Sun, 11-21-2004 - 1:53am

I've been doing pretty well, although very busy these days. Between grad school and my promotion to director, it's been hectic. But I'm loving every minute of it. For the first time ever, I have enough money to actually shop the day after Thanksgiving AND get Dani's car fixed all at the same time! I still haven't gotten back into the dating world, but I will when the time is right. My divorce was final on September 14, 11 months after filing. I've been out for 18 months now and it feels great. The girls are doing well - Dani is graduating in a couple of weeks and headed to community college in January, and Hannah is doing better all the time. We still have tough times - Hannah's behavior isn't perfect - but we've settled into a very comfortable home where we all can be ourselves all of the time. It's wonderful to know that neither me or either of my girls is pretending to be something we're not anymore. Eric still tries to push my boundaries whenever he thinks he can but he hasn't gotten away with it in a very long time - which has made him even worse at work. He may lose his job over his most recent behaviors! But I'm finally getting child support and making all decisions 100% on my own.

I hope that you are as happy as you look in your pics. You and Chloe deserve to be very, very happy!

Peace and hugs,
Cheryl =)

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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 11:16am

Thank You Miss TracyGrinch! You are the BEST! I love ya and I miss all of us being in chat and hanging out on the boards together. Your own story inspired me so very much, I truly admire you. :)

I am leaving Wednesday for Austin, then Sat. for my cruise, but when I get back we all need to catch up!

Love and Hugs!
Jeepster

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Mon, 11-22-2004 - 11:19am

Thank You so much, I really appreciate it and I am so happy to *see* you, Christine! I hope you are doing great and that you have a wonderful holiday season!

Hugs!

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Tue, 11-23-2004 - 10:30am

Jeepster, I couldn't be happier! You have come such a long way and you deserve this happiness! During the worst times it seemed we'd never get our lives back. You are proof that we DO come out on top! You are stunning... and Chloe is just beautiful!

Enjoy this new life that you fought so hard for and were always meant to have! Love ya!

--Sooner

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Tue, 11-23-2004 - 11:19am
Hey, Sooner!

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Wed, 11-24-2004 - 3:15pm

Hi Tracy! I don't see a whole lot of familiar faces around here anymore. I'm doing pretty good! I'm still with DH but I've gotten much stronger in the past couple of years. He's on medication which helps his moods, but he still has his moments. I stand up for myself more now, and tell him where he can go. I literally tell him to "Stop it!" when he's being a jerk or acting up in front of the kids. I don't know why it took me so long to stand up to him! The relationship is not perfect... but it's manageable enough that I'll stick around for now. But the difference is... I'm not as afraid to leave--not as worried about starting over if I choose to do so.

My kids are doing great... DS-11, DS-9, DD-6. Why do they have to grow so fast!

I hope you're doing well Tracy! Great to see you! {{{{{Hugs}}}}}}