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Wedding rings?
| Mon, 01-26-2004 - 2:27pm |
Hi all...I just had a question for those you that are still living with your H. Do you still wear your wedding ring? H never leaves the house without it, but then again, he is the one who really wants this marriage to work out. Some days I just feel like a hypocrite wearing it, because I am not committed to this relationship, in my heart. Other times, I don't wear it, and again, feel like a hypocrite because I am certainly living in a marriage, I am not single. I don't want to be untruthful in any way, with anyone I meet, but I just am at a loss here. I don't want to wear something that is a symbol of something I don't feel, but it is nevertheless, something that I am right now. Sometimes I wear them on my other hand, feels like a good compromise some days....Anyways, I just was wondering what the rest of you do/did. Hope you are all having a good day.

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Anyways, if you have any extra energy today, there's a mom over on that other board we post on who is waiting for sma test results today, poor thing. Send her a hug or some negative vibes or something.
Well, Lurker, I'm a bit out of sorts myself, but this time it isn't the H that's causing it so I won't go into detail here. Sending you love and hugs from the garden state!
Thanks for giving me a heads up on the other board, I popped by there and left her a message. I hope she gets good test results.
I am sorry you are feeling low today, whatever/whoever the cause, I hope you will feel happier soon! I am a little behind on my school work, H has the computer in "his" room, aka the office, and he was sick all weekend, so I wasn't really able to do anything. I am a little overwhelmed, but so happy to be back in school.
(((HUGS))) to you!!!
I was just reading the earlier messages posted and yours caught my eye. My husband has an out-of-town job and was to be away for a couple of months. the day after he left...i took off my wedding ring and put it in the drawer. I havent put it on since. He will definately get the hint when he gets home though. I would never in a million years dream of getting so angry that I would remove the ring, but I have reached my limit. I feel like I am no longer the happy person I used to be and this is the consequence. So...it felt weird to me for a little while...and i felt guilty..but as time went on, i discovered that my feelings did not change and I am ready to face him and tell him my feelings. I dont act like I am single, because I am not. But, it feels like the prison walls are going down a little bit, the less of him in my life. I wish you luck and peace.
Two things made me wake up. First; my brother died at the age of 42. He suddenly had Lukemia and died in 2 months. A healthy man all of his life he left behind his wife, two daughters, aged 12 and 8, and a 3 year old son. He had just moved to a house he wanted to renovate. He had a lot of things he wanted to do.
Then, my son grew up and moved out on his own.
I looked at what I had left, however many days that may be, to live out the rest of my life with, and I didn't like it.
I just decided I had had enough and I couldn't take it anymore.
And I won't.
I don't know what tomorrow may hold, life can be shorter than you think, but I'm certainly not going to live it like this.
My son is the love of my life. A sweet respectful boy that values me as a person, not just as his mom.
Without him around, it is no longer worth trying to keep the peace.
For the millionth time, my husband said he will change.
Oh, sure.
He said he realized that this is his last shot.
It is.
I expect nothing.
I am an artist and am submitting my work to galleries in the states closer to my parents and sisters. I plan to move there.
I don't and will not wear my rings. Why should I? It is my choice, after all. This has never been a real marriage, why keep pretending?
I get hit on. People tell me I look 25 even though I am 45 (just good genes. No thanks to me). It doesn't matter if you get hit on, I used to get hit on even though I WORE my rings, even if I was in church wearing clothes buttoned up to the neck, whether I was with my husband or not, even when I was 8 1/2 months pregnant! My father-in-law has even hit on me!
It doesn't matter, what matters is what you DO about it! I've had young guys come up to me, and I ask them how old they are then tell them my age. Some of them are horrified, because I am older than some of their mothers!
But some of them don't care!!
Even so, I don't take it any further. It's what *I* do about it.
Right?
Right!
xoclibertycart
If you stay focused on yourself, you stay miserable.
I wore mine until the day we split, and tried to take his with me.
CL-Blueliner4
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