Weird Dream Last Night

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Registered: 04-24-2005
Weird Dream Last Night
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 8:33am

I had this weird dream last night, or nightmare I should say, about my abusive ex husband. I used to have these nightmares all the time when I was married, but I've been divorced from him 3 years, and every so often I still have them.

Many times when we would argue, to shut me up he would just haul off and wail me in the stomach, knocking the wind out of me so I couldn't breathe. In this nightmare I had last night, it was one of those that were so real, you just can't forget them. Anyway, I dreamt that he punched me in the stomach, then I remember the kid's now stepmother saying to me, as I'm on the floor gasping for breath, "I have to get out." Weird.

He was an abusive husband, now he's just an abusive ex husband. I'm in therapy, therapist is now giving me ways to deal with him during exchanges of the kids, verbal abuse on the phone, etc. I've exhausted all my legal options to keep him away, it just always gets turned around on me, saying I'm just trying to keep the kids away from him.
On some of these occasions he has even pushed me down in the front yard, and he has also spit in my face during the exchanges. I've called the cops on him, but they say it's my word against his. They are all his buddies, he is a paramedic in town.

Do any of you have nightmares about your abuser?




Edited 5/4/2005 8:48 am ET ET by yellow_roses2005
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Registered: 02-08-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 12:02pm
I too have bizarre and strange dreams about my ex.
5yrssm 
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 1:23pm

A lot of victims and survivors have these flashback types of dreams and it's a way that our mind has to assist us in coming to terms with things that have happened to us in the past.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 05-03-2005
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 9:29pm

That must be terrible to have others doubting your word just because he's a paramedic, especially when talking about such a serious issue.

I've had a few dreams about my xbf. He's only slapped me once but he's got a bad mouth with calling me names and threatening my life and the lives of those I love. In my dreams he has beaten me to death and tried to kill me with a blow torch (what a way to go). I believe it was the combination of the last dream (it seemed so real), an article on toxic relationships I happened to read in a magazine at a doctor's office, and coming to this board that I had finally decided to break off completely from him. Strange how "coincidences" can have such an impact on your life.