went to the intake today

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Registered: 03-26-2003
went to the intake today
Fri, 03-28-2003 - 12:45pm
I was amazed at how much I have learned just through this board. I think the DV counselor was amazed too. I have it feeling it went faster and smoother for me versus someone coming in and not knowing what to expect. I want to thank you all for educating me and giving me information prior to this meeting. In some small way I feel I have regained a *little* control of my life back, and I also feel a weight has been lifted off me somehow. I have learned I have vocalize what has happend to me so I don't go back into denial. I know I am far from what I want from life today, I just feel in some small way I am actually doing something about it. She wants me to go to the weekly meeting, with other women....I guess it's just like this board......other women supporting and telling their stories to each other. She says it's very effective. I can't believe at 39, I am learning how important boundaries are, and how important self respect is, etc. I can't believe how long I have lived like this....the perpetual people pleaser.......Arrgggghhhhh!!! Hugs!!

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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 1:02pm
Whohoooo Pia!! I am SO glad you went today!! This sounds like a great group, and a it is a *very* important step for you!!

Yes, you are a people-pleaser, but that isn't a bad thing! What's bad is that others have taken advantage of that goodness in you!

I'm so happy to hear this, and to hear how much better you feel after going. I think the "live" support, in addition to being here, will help you, so much. I'm sure you will help the others in the group too, whohoooo!!


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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:31pm
I'm so happy to hear this! I told my counselor about our board while I was going and she was extremely interested in it. She even visited it and printed some information off our homepage, she thought it was great!

You DID do something big here, something just for you, and this was definitely a step forward, which is always the right direction. :)

I think the women's group is a good idea also, along with the individual counseling. Congratulations, sweetie!


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Fri, 03-28-2003 - 3:39pm
Congratulations, sweetie. I am sooo happy you went to the counselor and are going to go to the meetings. Big step in healing and growing. Definitely. And I'm right there with you with the people pleasing. It took me 36 years to realize how much respect I gave to others, how I put others first and when it came to me it was always "no big deal". Well, now I'm a big deal. And this board helped me big time with that. The good news is that we have become aware. And awareness is the first step to changing that. Good for you.

Hugs and love,


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Sun, 03-30-2003 - 11:12am
Dear Pia,

You ARE taking control of your life by beginning to talk about your experiences with your counselor and going to a support group. I agree with everyone above; this is a big and wonderful step!

Woo hoo, girl! Hugs!


Outside ideas of right doing and wrong doing, there is a field. I will meet you there. -- Rumi
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Tue, 04-01-2003 - 7:20pm
I agree. Mizlizzy and company have a fantastic support board here. I am still constantly amazed at their knowledge of the laws (or where to find the answers) and women's rights and resources. Whenever I read these types of responses I think about my sister's situation when she first got pregnant and got married to an abusive you know what. And my dad did everything he could to punish her, take away her power over her life, and keep her down. Whenever I read about these things I find myself going over what happened to her and thinking, OK, she could have done this and this and gone here to get that, and done this, etc. I guess it makes me feel more powerful about a situation that made me feel powerless and terrified.

Good luck to you. Joyce