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| Sun, 03-26-2006 - 2:48am |
Hi. This is Sooyon. For the past week I've been getting frequent calls from my ex boyfriend. Just asking how I was doing, etc. Then, he asked if he could see me Friday. I said I was busy and had lots to do. He said okay, maybe next time. Then late at night, almost one in the morning, he called again. At first I didn't know but he later said he had a drink. He said he knows very well how bad he had been to me and will regret it all his life, but he sort of blames me for not trying to tell him about our unhealthy relationship for all those ten years, make him stop his abusive behavior and suddenly ending the relationship giving him no second chance. I got the goose bumps. He was really scaring me. Then, he said he had something to say in person, that some big changes had happened in his life during our first month apart. I have no idea what it could be. We're going to have a short talk on Monday. I don't fall for any of his sweet talk any more and the more I talk with him the stronger I believe I was right about leaving him.
What could it be that he has to say in person? He wouldn't tell me over the phone. Do you have any ideas?

He may not even know himself what he is going to say. He just wants any opportunity to see you. Or, he may possibly tell you how he has changed. From what I have learned they can't change that quickly, if at all. He may just be looking for another opportunity to tell you it is your fault. In any case, it can't be anything that will change his situation around.
Remember, no contact! Meeting him in person would be bad. Reread everything you have written about him. Read all you can on the internet. Keep reminding yourself that he is an unsafe person. I too, forget and need to keep re-reading. Don't get sucked back in!
Strong
He could be up to a lot of things, hon.
I just dropped by a while ago to get my lap top computer and some allergy pills. I was lucky to leave early enough not to bump into him and his parents.
He said he would call later.
How could I ask him to return the keys without seeing him? Should I tell him to hand it over to the landlord who ives upstairs?
I'll go with my parents later to get them.
Thank you all for so much concern. Don't worry. I'll stay on the safe side. Actually, I've been having frustrating nightmares ever since I've been getting phone calls from him last week.
Talking about dreams, when I was still with him, I occasionally had these wedding dreams since about an year ago. In these dreams I'm all excited about getting married but everything goes wrong like I can't get packed for the honeymoon or my makeup or hair is a mess, I lose my way to the church, etc. In my most recent wedding dream, my ex was out drinking with his friends until the morning of the wedding. I was so worried I couldn't get dressed. I was still in my pajamas. But he appeared at the wedding all dressed up in a tuxedo. I was so furious I just ran out of the church and kept on running. My ex, his friends and my friends ran after me. When I had no where else to run I just jumped into a pool to drown myself. Since this dream I never dreamed of weddings any more.I guess my unconsciousness was trying to tell me not to marry him.
Glad to hear that you didn't meet with him... That was a bs statement anyway. My abuser would do that all the time... Say mysterious things like, "you just don't know what's been happening lately." He tried to sound excited like he had something great to tell me. I didn't fall for it... Then he'd try saying crap like, "God has really revealed some awesome stuff to me that I wouldn't have seen if it weren't for you." (He will be punished for using God's name in vain). Again, I wouldn't fall for it...
It took quite a long time for my curiosity to stop tripping me up... but I finally learned that man has nothing new to say to me. He says the same lies over and over again, just with different words. "Same sh**, different day." as the saying goes.
Praise God, His Truth has set me free. Amen.
Stay strong, sooyon.
Love,
Loonybunny