What did I do this time........?

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Registered: 01-27-2006
What did I do this time........?
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Wed, 06-07-2006 - 11:39am
Yeah so I'm taking a shower this morning. And my husband barges (sp?) in screamiing at me and asking me "why are you taking a shower??" DUH.....cause I need a shower!!! He then continues to yell at me and say all of these nasty names and such about how I'm cheating on him and needed to get rid of the "stank." Then, he goes out to the kitchen and he comes back while i'm still taking a shower, and yells about a empty corona bottle that is in the trash can. He then throws the corona bottle over the shower cutain thing, and it lands by my feet. (thank God it didn't hit me or break while I was in there) And he throws back the curtain and starts accusing me of cheating on him. And along with that he yells terrible names at me. I then lost it and jumped out of the shower and I started screaming at him and asking what the hell was his problem. And he continued to say that he has this gut feeling that I"m cheating on him. I was like totally confused and stunned and just like taken back. I had no idea how to react to all of this. I just went about getting ready for work. and getting out of there. It all just didnt' make sense. Now, I was told before when your spouse or whatever starts accusing you out of no where...that meant that they were usually the ones that are guilty of somthing. Is that true for the most part?? Cause yesterday he left around 6pm to go to a baseball game with his cousins. And didn't come home till 11:30. Which is the time he has to leave to go to work. After asking him why he came home now, and that I'm sure the baseball game was over by then, he tells me that the game ended at 10:30 but that he went to his friends house afterwards. Well, hello....knowing that you have to go to work that night you would think you would come home at a decent time to get ready . But noooooo...he was rushing all over the place making crazy messes trying to get to work. So what the hell happened from yesterday at the ball park to this morning screaming at me??? I just dont' get it or him??? Then of course we left it the way it was this morning and I went off to work. Who knows what he'll think of next when I get home......Erg........

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Registered: 03-18-2006
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 12:36am

And THAT is exactly the kind of lighthearted response I needed to read after my Mavs just lost a game in the NBA finals. SO funny!! It is so nice when THEY have to do something to attract us for a change.
H finally shaved his beard off this week after 17 years!! Why couldn't he do that when I was still interested? Oh, right. Because it was MY idea....What was I thinking?

Hugs to you all
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Registered: 06-09-2006
Wed, 06-14-2006 - 12:36pm

Hello!

It sounds to me like he's unstable. I hate to put it like that. He had no reason to run into the shower and throw a can.

My ex used to do stuff like that, to be honest with you. He was threatened because I started going to law school. He told me not to study with guys. He was always asking me where I was, most of the time I was in the library, or working. To give you an example, one time I put my wedding ring on the kitchen counter, because I was cleaning. He confronted me, asking why it was there. DId I not wear it, because I was cheating? I had the ring on the counter for like, an hour. It turned out that he was cheating. I agree with the theory that if someone accuses you of something, usually they're doing it. It's like projection.

You are not alone.

Hello!

How are thing going for you?

Best Regards,

BlessedGirl

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