what to do?

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Registered: 05-05-2006
what to do?
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Tue, 05-09-2006 - 3:21pm
You know what I learned there is nothing you can say to a woman that is in a abusive relationship. You can only be there for them when they need you and shelter them when they have no where to go. they have to be the one to stand up and say no more . we can't . I have a friend that continues to go back to her b/f everytime. He has broken her nose, left her with two black eyes, takes her money, calls her all kinds of names, chokes her, pulls her hair, kicks her for no reason. It hurts me so bad to see that happen to her and everytime she leaves I think its for the last time but she always says she stays with him because of her kids. But i really don't want to see her dead because I know its going to happen. What should I do? Sometimes I wish someone would take his life or hurt him really bad. I know its wrong to think that way. Is there anyway to intervene. I feel like if i do she's is going to go back with him anyway

Loving Mother to Josue and Wife to Sergio

 

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Registered: 05-19-2003
In reply to: divine2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 4:20pm

You're right, all you can do is stand by her, be her friend, let her trust you and confide in you. It is difficult to understand why/how someone who is in physical/emotional/verbal abusive relationship can stay. I'm sure she doesn't really understand it herself but hopefully with your support she can come to realize that she deserves much better. Please stick with her. She needs you more than you know. And maybe you can refer her to this board for more support. Keep being a great friend.

Lisa

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Registered: 05-05-2006
In reply to: divine2006
Tue, 05-09-2006 - 5:57pm

I will do that because I do love her and her children. I appreciate your insight on things. I will definitely recommend this site to her because it has helped me a lot with my personal issues. Thanks

Simone

Loving Mother to Josue and Wife to Sergio

 

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Registered: 01-12-2001
In reply to: divine2006
Wed, 05-10-2006 - 11:56am

You are doing the right thing by being there for her, that is all you can do. You know what she is going through and understand, you are a good friend,

Luv, Sherry