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|Thu, 06-09-2011 - 3:18pm|
This is the third time I have tried to post today. I can't get what I want to say out of my head and into words. Most of you know my story since I have posted here before. I will have been married 15 years this month, but left in February and was then locked out of my house a couple of days later (that helped me not to go back again). The update is that we have sold our house, just waiting for closing. I know that is a good thing, because I will be able to afford a place of my own now, it is still just sad.
I completely blocked all contact with my stbx. It was so hard not to know where he was or what he was doing or how he felt. Anyway, a few days ago, he went too far. He had been or had someone following me. Well, he swears that I am having an affair and that is why our divorce is happening. So far from the truth. He went too far by changing his facebook name and picture to that of my guy friend and then sending me friend requests and messages the whole time thinking I would think it was my friend (we are not facebook friends). When I clicked on the friend request (just the name, I did not accept the friend request), it took me to my husband's page.
Here is where I need advice.....the settlement papers have been drawn up and agreed upon. He has not signed or sent them back. Since the house sold, I unblocked him from my email address to see if we could nicely discuss when I could get my things. I know it was a bad move on my part, but I am still weak willed. He confirmed everything again that I made the right decision. I received a LONG email about how I had this divorce planned and it was sad that I ran off with another (I am at home everynight at my parent's house.....how sad is that). He went on and on. He said that he just wants me to confirm that what he "knows" is true. In my opinion I think he is holding up the papers until I give in. What do I do? I am not going to lie and confess just to get the divorce. What does he think he is going to gain? My lawyer and his lawyer told my lawyer that at this point it doesn't matter who does what. He still wants control, right? He is still manipulating me and trying to make me feel guilty, right? I called my lawyer and he