What do you think of female violence?

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Registered: 11-05-2012
What do you think of female violence?
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Wed, 11-28-2012 - 11:23am

I think is also dangerous FEMALE VIOLENCE... I was reading this http://cheatingpeople.org/2012/11/28/female-violence-against-men-alarming-data/

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 12:00pm

"With regard to sexual violence, 48.7% of the sample claimed to have sustained least one episode of such violence at the hands of a woman. The greater percentage regards the interruption without understandable reasons of a started intimate relationship."

Maybe I'm not reading this right, but to me this states that saying "NO" after sex has started without a good reason (accoding to the man that is) is violence by the woman against the man. 

 

WOW I'm speachless.

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Registered: 01-11-2012
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 12:00pm

"With regard to sexual violence, 48.7% of the sample claimed to have sustained least one episode of such violence at the hands of a woman. The greater percentage regards the interruption without understandable reasons of a started intimate relationship."

Maybe I'm not reading this right, but to me this states that saying "NO" after sex has started without a good reason (accoding to the man that is) is violence by the woman against the man. 

 

WOW I'm speachless.

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Registered: 02-28-2001
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 1:38pm
Hi Elena, and thank you for posting on the board. There is no doubt that men are also victims of domestic violence. Because of the "social stigma" associated with a "man" reporting an assault by a woman to the police, it is believed that domestic violence against men is much higher than statistics show. However, in some cases, the violence a woman perpetrates against a man is often an act of self defense in response to a physical assault by the man. Domestic violence is a problem with very complex dynamics and motivations. Domestic violence is based in a person's need to maintain control of and have absolute power over an intimate partner, regardless of gender, sexual orientation, race or any other "qualifier". It is a "secret" crime, that many do not report because of the lack of education of the general public and the limited resources available to help those who have been victimized by it. I read the article that you referred to and several things cause me to question its veracity and basis in hard research. First, the grammar and syntax are not proper in several places. Also, the lack of citation of sources and research raises flags in my mind. Third, the fact that the article references and suggests that the use of covert listening and recording devices might be helpful suggests to me that this is merely an advertisement masquerading as a factual, well researched, documented, and legitimate work. There is no doubt that men suffer from domestic violence and it is just as wrong as when it is perpetrated against men. Domestic violence is wrong, regardless of the gender of the victim and the perpetrator. This board does not and has never discriminated in responding to our members. A victim of domestic violence is a victim, period, and it is ALL wrong. If you are looking for resources and information regarding how this crime affects its male victims, you might consider contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE or contacting your state's domestic violence coalition. They should be able to steer you in a direction that can provide you with well documented, legitimate, factual data. Good luck and let me know if this helped.

Mama Harmony

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Registered: 10-15-2013
Tue, 10-15-2013 - 11:11am
Hi Elena. I just left her for good after 3 mind-altering years with a manipulative, aggressive, controling, scary, emotionally abusive woman. Never saw it coming.