What is his problem?

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Registered: 05-13-2004
What is his problem?
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Fri, 10-01-2004 - 1:07am
I posted here for the first time a couple of days ago. I had alot of friends telling me the man I was seeing is mentally and sexually abusive and I was curious if others shared their opinions. I shared how he told me where I could go, who I could associate with, what I could wear and the list goes on and on and on............ Anyways the sexually aspect was even worse, considering this man intentionally inflicted pain on me sometimes lasting up to 2 or 3 weeks and wasn't satisfied if he didn't hurt me.(I didn't share this part last time but now I have to go to the doctor because I think he may have done some serious damage) Well all the people who responded were very to the point in telling me he sounded dangerous. This really got me thinking and yesterday I told him it was over. I was very blunt about the fact that it was over. Well he continued calling with the usual "I love you, I miss you" and "I don't want this to end" (you know the usual tactics men use). I was firm and continued to be firm. He calls me tonight and wants to get together and talk just the 2 of us. I declined he ask about getting together tomorrow. I honestly said I had plans. He was being very sweet and nice until he asked where I was going and I just said to dinner with a friend. He kept asking who I was going with and where we were going. I wouldn't give him anything more than "just a friend". He gets mad and demands a answer. I very clearly said "we aren't together and I don't have to answer to you." That comment sent him flying off the handle. He started yelling and accusing me of sleeping with other people. He said he figured thats why I broke it off is so I could go to bed with all these other people. He said he figured the whole time we were together I was sleeping around. He said I thought we were going to get together and talk about getting back together. I told him I have no interest in getting back with him. I told him that offended me and he just kept yelling and throwing insults at me. What is his problem? I told him it was over why not just move on? I am hoping he got the hint and that he will stop persuing me, but my friends said now he will try harder and to be careful. She thinks this man could very well be a threat to my safety. Anyways I am proud of myself and just thought I would share. Am I wrong to think he got the hint? Should I be concerned for my safety? (Because on my last post it was very clear that the people who responded thought he was dangerous.) Thanks for listening and being supportive. I hope this makes sense. Kristin

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 1:49pm

You have some very wise friends, Shorty.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 09-17-2004
Fri, 10-01-2004 - 5:41pm
Kristin, when you go to the doctor, I would get copies of all documentation of the visit, the cause, trauma, care needed, etc. and I would get a restraining order with that now. He makes me nervous just to read about him.

jen {{hugs}}