What is laying low?

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Registered: 06-22-2006
What is laying low?
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Fri, 08-04-2006 - 5:58pm
Okay I am ending a 4 year relationship with somebody. It is a crazy situation to start with. But he becomes very angry at me sometimes. I have started seeing a counselor and she did some kind of questionaire about this guy and he had 16 yes out of 18 for have propensity for violence. He has threaten to kill me before. He has described in detail how he would do it, he wants to look in my eyes as he strangles me. But then he has long periods of being nice. He has threaten shoot me and any man I try to talk to. He reminds me has guns. Then this past week we fought and he threaten to kill me again and this time he threaten my family and pets. He said he wasn't afraid of jail. My counselor had said I need to lay low. What is laying low? Do I answer when he calls? He said if I didn't he would come to my house and straighten me out. He has never hit, but once and not hard in all the years we have been together. He has said he was arrested for assault before with another woman. He threatens me then, says he would never do, then he says he will. I just don't know how much to stand up to him.
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Registered: 05-03-2004
Fri, 08-04-2006 - 10:26pm
well he definitely sounds like a typical abuser...if he has threatened to kill you repeatedly, then ihave no doubt in my mind he is the kind that would and could...the best way to lay low is to go away where noone knows where u r, or stay with someone you can trust, and DONT talk to him....at all...if you are ready to end it FOR GOOD, you may want to call the police when he threatens you or if he comes to your house and harasses you...they can take care of it and then you will have documentation that he has been doing this to you...just because he hasnt hit you, or only hit you once, does not mean he isnt violent or doesnt have the capacity to be violent...he is a sick individual who you need to be away from for your own safety
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Sat, 08-05-2006 - 12:57pm

Welcome, me_again.