When can I call the police
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| Mon, 09-06-2004 - 5:52pm |
Some of you know of my husband and my relationship. He is constantly asking me to tell him his height (5'7) doesn't mean he's not attractive, wants me to reassure him that he's hot and on and on.
Today he began to ask me if I thought one of my friends (who lives in Iowa, I live in Minnesota) was better looking than he. My friend and I started out as pen pals, and met only twice, but we still stay in touch. I refused to answer and my husband began to get mad. I won't answer him because I've tried answering his questions in the past, and he continues to ask the same question over and over, and tells me he doesn't believe me and thinks I am appeasing him. Personally, I haven't seen my friend in over a year (though I would love to see him...he tells me to bring my husband) and I think my husband would bug me about the way this guy looks, do I find he or my husband more attractive, etc. so I always tell my friend it isn't a good idea.
Anyway, while we were having this conversation (which by this point had been going on for about two hours about many various things, but mostly how come I told him (my husband) that I use to find him attractive, but I no longer do, because of how he treats me) I was eating lunch. I told him about three or four times to leave me alone. He kept on asking me, questions anyway, so I started smacking my lips and "focusing" on the food (making comments like "Oh, this is so good"...juvenile maybe.....but I was so frustrated because he wouldn't leave me alone) All of a sudden he took a pair of my pants that were hanging over a chair and threw them at me, I backed up and got out of the chair, then he took a water bottle he had and began tossing water at me. I was so confused and stunned. He kept on throwing water, and tossed a votive candle at me and finally hurled the rest of the bottle of water at me. I managed to make it to the phone, and picked it up and told him to stop or I would call the police. He started to come at me, and I panicked and tried to dial the police, but dialed 711 by mistake. He tried to grab the phone, and knocked a chair into me, bruising my leg,but I yelled at him to get out. Finally he did, and I just bawled after he left. After I composed myself I called my mom, and she wants me to get out, but knows right now I won't. Anyway, we talked for a bit, and hung up. A little while later, my husband calls, and said "I know why you are staying with me". I asked him how he knew, and he said he had come back home (we live in the basement apartment of a house) and had listened to my conversation because I couldn't be trusted. I didn't hear him come in (we enter through the garage, and come down some squeaky steps to get into our apartment, so if he was home, he was very quiet. At this point I pretty much stay so I can get through school w/o worrying how to pay my bills. Though he didn't quite say that's what he heard, he did hear another part of my conversation exactly. I saw some anit-aging cream on his shelf in the bathroom and told my mom about it (he's extremely egotistical...funny how he didn't show me this side of himself when we dated : ), and he made a comment that "a lot of men do that" and "people tell me I'm so hot I could model, so I have to take care of my face"
At any rate I don't know if I would have been in the right to call the police in that situation, and because he left would they have gone to work to get him, or would they have just talked to me.
Does anyone have any advice?
Lmo
Edited 9/6/2004 7:56 pm ET ET by lmolvr

At any time you are being physically threatened or attacked, call the police.
CL-Blueliner4