where should i begin..........

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Registered: 12-27-2003
where should i begin..........
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Tue, 03-30-2004 - 2:47pm
i have to start by saying i must be one of the most unnerved woman that ever walked the face of the earth . i am talking to my ex abuser again- i guess this is what they call the "honeymoon" stage - he is constantly telling me he misses me , loves me , yada yada yada. i think my problem is i just don't know how to let go of someone - i have never broken up with anybody , and i am just stuck on the fact that it is only right to be with my baby's father . the funny thing is i made a date with him for this weekend and i am still trying to come up with excuses on why i can not go . see i know as soon as i tell him i am not going he is going to explode and my proof will be there that this is all an act -- but another part of me wants to just please him and maybe he will be normal and will not call me names or lash out at me . i know everyone is getting tired of my repeatative cycle and to tell u the truth so am i -- i just need friends that i can talk to and give me feedback . thanks for everything.
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Registered: 11-07-2003
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 3:17pm
Well, here is the place to be because we have all gone through the cycle. You have to decide when you have had enough. No one else can do that for you. They may be tired of it because they don't like to see you hurt and don't know what to do to help. I know my family was that way. Sometimes people don't know what to say anymore.

You don't need any excuse for the weekend except that you don't want to go. You don't need to be with your baby's father. It will ultimately hurt your baby to see you being hurt by your husband. Please don't go back to the abuse. It gets harder to leave everytime you go back. It will only cause you and your child a lot of pain. Good luck to you.

Jen

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 3:25pm

Trisha -


I have to caution you - by allowing the violation of the PO, you are making it harder for yourself in the long run legally.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Tue, 03-30-2004 - 3:35pm

I am going to prevent myself from sounding like a broken record.