why do I feel like this?????
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why do I feel like this?????
| Sun, 05-22-2005 - 5:58am |
Well, Friday night, STBX told me that he had no interest in working things out, had no interest in going to counselling, nothing like that...he wants a divorce. Now, obviously, I'm the one who originally left, so why do I now feel so horribly rejected, unwanted and generally depressed?


I'm not surprised you're hurting. After all, you've invested so much of your life and energy in your marriage and have had all his BS to deal with. Not to mention your sons, your pregnancy, work, school...
Sam, I honestly think most people would have trouble finding the energy to do all you're doing. And that's without going through a divorce and coping with negative family on top!
I take my hat off to you. I feel so much awe and respect for you.
Your STBX doesn't know what he wants. I can tell you what he doesn't deserve - a wonderful woman like you. And if your family are more concerned with the congregation than the welfare of you and your sons, they don't deserve you either.
One day, when you're past the worst of all this, I hope you look in the mirror and feel nothing but pride in yourself. You deserve it hon.
Rowena
Sam I'm in agreeance with Ray and Rowena on this one.
Goodness, if you put a bag over all of our ex's heads, we couldn't tell one jerk from the other from the sounds of it....... These ladies speak from experience, and they are right. He is one confused puppy. No, wait, I like puppies. Well then some other nasty animal. They ALL are. You have a classic case on your hands I am afraid. The cure is to get the h*&l away from him ASAP and stay away.
Hurting is completely normal and go ahead a cry a bit. It sometimes feels better. But then don't lose site of the end of the tunnel. It is there and it is a h*&l of a lot brighter than the place he will be staying behind in. You have so much going for you. You are a great mother, a strong lady, and you are doing so much to move yourself ahead despite all the hurdles. It WILL pay off. But for now, ignor those who are too insecure themselves to know how to help you, and spend time with good friends who will lift up your spirits. That includes the kind people here who are very willing to listen when you need someone to talk to. We can be your own personal cheering team! And gladly will I boo the jerk on the other side.
{{HUGS}} Samantha,
It's perfectly normal to feel sad and depressed. When you end a relationship, it's like a death.
JUst remember that this is the BEST thing for you and your children and your future child.
Remember... Take care of yourself. Your children need you to be healthy and strong.