Why do I fight back?
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Why do I fight back?
| Mon, 01-23-2006 - 3:45pm |
And what's more- when he gets angry instead of keeping my mouth shut I get angry too- granted he works at saying all the right things to get me angry- unjustly accusing me of things- calling me names- twisting my words around- and many other things- I just don't want to be specific and I finally get angry and yell back-
I shoudl just shut up but it is so unfair!
I shoudl just shut up but it is so unfair!

Hi MissGreenwood,
It IS unfair. Abuse is undeserved and unfair.
He shouldn't be calling you names, accusing you, and hitting you.
But...since he's already shown that he's not going to tolerate your fighting back, I'd refrain from yelling at him. Yelling back at an abusive man is like pouring gasoline on a fire. The next time he starts in on you, keep your voice calm, try to walk away from the argument if you can. If he gets violent again, don't hesitate to call 911.
You said that you love him, and you don't understand why. I wouldn't even worry about trying to figure that one out right now. I think your first priority should be your safety. He's already shown he can be dangerous. You're in danger every second that you're with him. Please call the dv hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) for info on where to get help in your area.
Be safe!