why does he keep bothering me?

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Registered: 12-30-2003
why does he keep bothering me?
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Fri, 03-26-2004 - 7:33pm
I am having a terrible time with H. I realize its been a very long time since we have seen each other, but why cant he respect my wish to live seperatly for now? He must have asked me a thousand times today to come back. and each time i replied with a strong-fast NO. And I was very proud of myself. He admitted that the times he was overly jealous, would ask "20 questions", and always wanted to know all details of things,...that this was something perfectly normal in his eyes. (That scares me a lot) He states that it is really who he is.

He said he would change for me and our marraige. Now thats not really going to help, is it??? I am still keeping up my guard even though he thinks i have had the past year to "recover" and he doesnt understand that HE is the one who is under the looking glass. (sigh) Well, one day at a time. Thanks for letting me vent. Thank you all for your wonderful responses. And I always check back in with the "how to see if he's changing or not". You all are part of a great support group.

strength76

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 03-26-2004 - 10:44pm

Hi hon -


He's going to keep bothering you as long as you remain in contact with him.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 12-30-2003
Sat, 03-27-2004 - 8:05am
I'm sorry. I guess there is a mis-communication in my last post. I have only recently kicked H out. He was away at his work for the last year.