Why won't he just go away???

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Why won't he just go away???
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Mon, 05-03-2004 - 10:35am
This morning the abuse got sexual. I found out last week he has been riding by my house every morning. My neighbor has been watching out for me. Well, this morning I was running late for work and I was pulling off of my street when he turned into it. Asked me to ride back to the house so he could see Anna for a minute. I said okay b/c I realized I left my cell phone and my gym shoes. When i pulled into the drive way I jumped out yelled at him that Anna was in the backseat, I had to grab soemthing and I'd be right out. When i got to my room and grabbed my phone I turned around and there he was. He was trying to kiss my neck, pushed me into the corner, and you can imagine what was happening. I kept saying no, you are forcing me to do something I don't want to do. I said no over and over again. He had me in a position I couldn't get out of so I just got my feet and kicked him as hard as I dould. Going to the gym is paying off. Hekept saying he would give me money for diapers if I'd have sex w/him. WHAT?!!?? This man is insane.

He hasn't been served w/divorce papers yet. He doesn't even know I've filed. I called my lawyer as soon as I got away from him and told her I needed and RO asap. I wasn't able to speak hto her directly but I left a message. I also called a friend and told her everything that happened. I'm so scared he is going to come after me when he gets those papers. Should i I leave my house when he gets served? This man has done so much damage to me and my kids and it's like he won't stop. Like he hasnt' done enough already. What do these men whnt from us? I never thuoght in a millon years he would have taken it here so now I just dont' know what could and might happen. I'm scared. So scared. I'm going to call my mom on my lunch break and tell her what happened. I don't need to be alone. You should have seen the look on his face when I pushed him away. It's like he could have killed me. For a minute I thought of giving in just to protect myself. Thank god he didn't do anything to hurt me.

I'm not sure what to do in this situation. The RO is a must, I know. My social worker also laid out a safety plan for me. I've been having anxiety attacks from all of this. I don't know how much more I can take. Is there anything else I can do to protect myself and my family?

mel

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 1:06pm

I would call the COPS immediately.

CL-Blueliner4

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 1:38pm
okay, but he didn't rape me. we didn't have sex at all. no doubt, he tried. you still think i should call the cops. my lawyer is out of the office today and her secratary told me to go to a shelter or stay in a safe place tonight and tomorrow morning they would have the RO. you still think i should call the cops?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Mon, 05-03-2004 - 2:02pm

My apologies, I guess I misread.

CL-Blueliner4