Will counseling help? What do I do?

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Registered: 10-04-2004
Will counseling help? What do I do?
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Wed, 10-06-2004 - 3:14pm
Hi,

I need some advice. I have been married for just over 2 months, and since the very first day of our honeymoon, I have been wondering of I married an abusive man. I am so sad.

He has such a short fuse now. Every little thing I do sets him off. Anything. For instance, the first day we were back from our honeymoon, he accused me of putting tuna down the drain, which I denied. I thought he was joking. I mean, we're talking about TUNA here! But he wasn't joking. He started yelling at me and getting in my face. That seems to be how he deals with his anger all the time. He also slams doors, throws things, drives like a crazy person when he's mad even when he knows I'm scared. He calls me names like b#*&h, he says I am crazy, he calls me a liar. He will even call me at work to yell at me then hang up the phone. Also, he always threatens to get an apartment a hour away closer to school, but he only says that when he's mad at me because he knows I don't think husband and wife should live apart. I think he just says that to hurt me. I feel so sad all the time now, and I'm wondering of this is just a normal part of marriage adjustment. Because if this is what marraige is supposed to be, why on Earth would anyone get married? Is he abusive, or is this just a communication problem? I don't know what to do. I feel like maybe I made a mistake by getting married, although I feel really bad for even thinking that.




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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 3:39pm

Hi Cancan, welcome -


At this point in time, I don't think counseling would be beneficial at all.

CL-Blueliner4