Would this be considered a form of abuse
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Would this be considered a form of abuse
| Tue, 09-21-2004 - 5:26pm |
I've been married for 24 yrs. 4 yrs ago H had an A. I'd been trying to keep the marriage together since the A. During the A, my H told me the kids were no good. He's since stopped, but now tells me that the oldest is stupid, the other two do want to go into a line of work that he thinks they should. We got into it the other day because he was criticizing me about something and I just blew up. I told him that if he had such a problem with me, then maybe we should just divorce. He told me the day that I wanted to, to go for it. Things turned ugly and he acted like he was going to beat on me, so I didn't stay to find out, I left. I've gone to a lawyer and have my papers in. He has since tried to talk to me, I stopped talking to him because I didn't want him to try and persuade me to stop the paperwork. In the brief conversation that we did have, he told me that I have a terrible temper, the kids are scared of me and I'm going to be a lonely old lady like my mom. My 3 older kids are adults and stand behind me on this decision. I just hate the fact that he knows how to push my buttons. My mom is a very difficult person and likes to start fights between us siblings. We have since learned to stay away from her. I'm begining to feel like I'm a horrible person. I know in my heart that I can not continue with him. He doesn't really love me or our kids. I don't understand how a parent can be so hateful to their own kids?
Any input would be appreciated.
Any input would be appreciated.

Hi Solitayo and welcome -
Regardless of whether or not he's an abuser, it sure sounds to me like you made the right choice.
CL-Blueliner4