you deserve better
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| Mon, 01-24-2005 - 10:05pm |
I've been reading the posts and replys not only here but on other forums. so many women, so many chldren whose lives are full of uncertainty and fear. They deserve better everyone does I hope this helps you find it. So many seem to think staying may be better or that by leaving they have failed well you haven't.
By leaving you do not tell your children that nothing is worth fighting for. You tell them that they are worth fighting for. You tell them that you are worth fighting for. You tell them that your futures are worth fighting for. That is why you need to leave. Will it be easy no. Leaving is never easy and it usually gets harder before it gets easier. But it will get easier. There is help keep looking. Take one step at a time and every time you think it would be easier and better to go back think of these things:
an abusive episode is NEVER an isolated event
abuse tends to increase and and become more violent over time
40- 60% of men who abuse women abuse children -it will get worse for them and you
boys of abusive families are 3X more likely to grow up to be abusers
35% of women in an abusive relationship witnessed their mother being abused
The reasons for going back and not being able to make it are words he's put in your head over the years. It's like a bad recording replace it with a better one.
You and your children are worth it

take care