November Chat

Community Leader
Registered: 05-11-1999
November Chat
5
Fri, 11-02-2012 - 8:45pm

Let's share life's ups, downs and all those in between moments!

Ready..........Set..........CHAT!!! 


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2005
Mon, 11-05-2012 - 9:20am

Warning..... this will be a long post.  

My weekend started out much like I had expected it to.  I'd been stressed out by back pain, finanical concerns and was emotionally withdrawn and a bit of a mess as a result of some depression setting in.   Greg was burnt out from a crazy busy week at work thanks to Sandy.   Whenever the stock market takes a dive or is shut down, it makes his job nutty.  Lots of people wondering where their hardship money is and why transfers didn't go through yet.   He also picks up on my moods so if I'm depressed he gets concerned and anxious.  He has bipolar disorder so it doesn't take much to produce in him a debiliating level of anxiety.   Needless to say it's been a "fun" few weeks in my home.

Friday night Greg was burnt out, didn't say much after work and went to bed at 9.   I stayed up a bit and prayed over everything.  Just cried out to God for guidance and reassurance.   I don't like feeling depressed and anxious and I know it's far worse for Greg than it is I when we get like this.   

Saturday was a busy day.  The day started at 8:30 at the church for a leadership meeting.  Then Greg had to do some Sandy repairs.   Our fence post on the 8 ft fence snapped where someone jumped it at 2:30 am the night of the storm.  (Don't ask....) and there were branches down and lots of leaves and debris to clean up.  I had to take my mom (85 years old) to do some errands and my brother and his wife had questions about their new laptop so they popped over for a half an hour so Greg could take a look at it.  Saturday night was a bit of a repeat of Friday night.  We had dinner, Greg didn't say much (we tried to talk about Christmas plans) and he fell asleep mid conversation.   That was around 8:30pm.    I spent about an hour in prayer, just asking God to guide us, and went to bed. 

Sunday morning we had the morning off.  Normally we are up at 5:30 to be at the church at 6:30 to set up chairs, the tech booth and stage lights.  This week Greg had off and could sleep in and I didn't have to be there until after the 11 o'clock gathering.  I was running CI5 which is a five minute overview of our church and a Q and A for anyone who is new and wants more information.   So we slept until 7.  Greg made omlets for breakfast and spent the morning doing the reading in Exodus in review for todays sermon on Exodus.  I spend the time in my studio doing some mindless sketching.     We attended the 11 o'clock gathering and it was amazing.  A very impactful sermon.   I did the CI5 thing and Greg helped move tables for the welcome lunch. (for anyone who is new to the church we have a lunch once very couple of months  to sit and meet and talk with church elders and pastors and get to know folks).  Then we went home and had our own lunch.   On the way home we got to talking about our Christmas, since the conversation didn't really go anywhere the night before or the weeks before for that matter.  We'd been trying to talk about this for a long time, but we never got anywhere.

So we talked about Christmas and how with our son off at college and soon to be on his own and probably not coming home much, his parents don't celebrate and my family probably won't be gathering much longer (family is too big and it's hard to get everyone together and costly).   In the future I see my siblings gathering with just their respective families.  For Greg and I that will be just us and our son Connor (when he can make it home).  So we found that our simple Christmas that we were doing may leave us feeling empty.  We don't decorate much.  A 2 ft tree with just lights and pine cones and a nativity.  So our home doesn't feel very festive.  (We wanted to simplify an focus more on God but I think we simplified too much ).     Gifts we didn't do the past two years but dh and I both feel something was missing in that we didn't give to each other anything.    We did adopt families both years but in doing so we aren't with the family to see them open their gifts.  So we miss out in that it doesn't feel like we really gave to anyone.  We just delivered a box to the church. 

So we are going to keep our little table top tree but we decided to hunt for vintage glass ornaments to make it more festive.  Really unique ones if we can.   We so went antiquing with our afternoon yesterday and found four that we really liked.  Total cost was $13 and I think we will really enjoy the hunt for ornaments each year and as we get more and more we can look into moving back into a 3 1/2 or 4 ft tree. (We don't have room for a bigger one).  We also decided to do a few simple and practical gifts each.  We set a budget of $100 a person.  
After our shopping trip we went home and had a nice dinner and enjoyed just sitting and reading in each other's company.   I think it's been a long time since we connected like that and the funk we were both in was lifted. 

My "thankful for" this week: That God proves himself faithful to those who cry out to him.

stacy

Community Leader
Registered: 05-11-1999
Tue, 11-06-2012 - 10:16am

Hi Stacy,

Thanks so much for your post!  What a wonderful word you shared about God being faithful to those who cry out to Him! I am so glad that you both were able to gave great communication about Christmas and were able to start looking for the vintage ornaments.  I love that!  Praise the Lord that you both have been lifted up!!!


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Community Leader
Registered: 05-11-1999
Tue, 11-06-2012 - 10:20am

Good Morning!  The sun is shining here and though it was a rough night & early morning, I am going to rejoice!  One of the inherited cats from my mother passed on this morning. It is very sad for my children. They are with DH this morning learning about voting and what that looks like. I have been dealing with headaches for days now, so I will go out later.

Hope you all are having a great day! 


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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2005
Fri, 11-09-2012 - 9:35am

Looks like the weather is finally clearing.  It's supposed to be 48 today and the sun is shinning.  Snow wasn't too bad, mostly slushy wintery mix with a dusting of snow on the ground yesterday morning. It rained most of yesterday. 

   Today I'm heading to the bank to make a deposit.  $25 brings our buffer in our checking back up to $200. I don't like the balance to go lower than that and it had been sitting at $80 for a while.  I have $20 to put some gas in my car and I trust God will stretch it to last me all week as I have half a tank now and I  have to drive my mom to the doctors on Monday.  1/2 drive to moms and an hour to the doctors from her house.   This leaves us with $10 in cash for the week and I have to pick up something for my sponsor child and ship it airmail to Kenya. Hoping this is enough money.

I plan on spending some time in the studio today.  I also want to work on the afghan I've been making.  It's taken me a year to ge to the half way point. Knitting it in panels and it is all fancy cables.   I'd love to just give it up, but my friends say I have to finish it.  LOL.  I think I'm just tired of it. I keep putting it aside to do other projects, which is why it's still not done.

I'm going up to the attic to see if I have any wrapping paper for Christmas.  Greg said he saw paper up there but wasn't sure what type it was.   So I'll have to check.  I have about $30 left to spend on my son for physical gifts (guitar strings, candy and gum) and we will help him pay for his passport when he gets here in Dec.  He has $100 saved up.   I hope to pick up the strings and such today so that I can be done with my son's gifts and just have to focus on my husband.

 I have a couple of books purchased  for Greg and I'm hoping one arrives in the mail today so that I can tuck it away.  The other already arrived.    He also wants a memory card for his Nook, some bits and attachments for his dremel tool and a small swiss army knife. I'll round this out with a big back of pistachio nuts (his favorite).  I doubt I can get it all done before Black Friday, just because of the financial end of things, that's the only downside.

stacy

 

 

 

 

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2012
Sat, 11-24-2012 - 11:51pm

I couldn't handle someone with bi-polar disorder, good for you for having the patience. :)

Ahh I don't miss the marriage life at all. lol

 

God Bless!