I have been given the overwhemling task

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Registered: 03-25-2003
I have been given the overwhemling task
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 10:27am

Of emptying out the old house. Mark called me last night on his way home and said that I have two days to get it done! Its all the stuff that I was not able to make a judgement call on, because it was Marks crap that collects in mass. To say I'm angry or upset is a major understatement. I think its rude, selfish, mean, and a cop out. He has had the past 3 months to get it done. After I went over and unloaded the house with my lady friends from church, and Zach, I told him the rest was up to him. I said you can get all the help you want, but not me! And now I have been told its all up to me with no time to even get help. How incredibly unconsiderate is that? I'm telling you, my marriage is in trouble. I honestly think that any area of love is gone. A man doesn't treat a woman like this if he loves her. And right now, I'm loving him too much either.. If it weren't for my kids..... :(..........well you know.


please pray for me over the next couple of days... this whole thing makes my lungs in such bad shape..... And he KNOWS this!.........I'm so mad I could spit.

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-24-2008 - 10:53am
Ok, here is my sheepish look. Do you see it? My husband did that to me at not one move but THREE OF THEM. So here is how I remedied this before the 4th move. Anything that wasn't mine, that he hadn't thought enough to move already, I tossed. I mean EVERYTHING. Tools, clothes, assorted hunting items, cologne, anything left behind. I didn't ask, I just tossed. Do you know that there was only 1 thing he ever missed? It was a knife with interchangable blades for hunting. When he complained and got mad, I told him that it was a left behind item so I had to assume it was no longer good. He fumed for a week or 2 but now he gets all his stuff out before I make the final sweep.lol Kinda funny now. Not that I'm saying that you should use my technique. I'm a bit mule-ish in nature when I should bend more sometimes.lol

Your sister in Christ,


Robin

Robin

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 1:07pm
I have to agree with Robin on this one. He had the opportunity to gather his stuff. You have no way of knowing what he wants and what he doesn't. I'd either leave it or toss it. It's how my mom broke dad of leaving change and stuff in his pockets when he took off his jeans. Whatever she found when she was doing laundry, automatically became hers. And the threat of tossing whatever DH leaves lying around works wonders for getting the house neatened.
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:36am
Karen I am so sorry you are dealing with all of this at the moment. I will be keeping you in prayer.






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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 7:25pm

I will keep you in my prayers!!

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:05pm

I'm adding my prayers, too! Huge Hugs!!!


Praise God that you had all your friends from church help you with your stuff... i know when i moved my church group was more than happy to help and actually thanked me for the opportunity. I pray you receive the moving help that you need in such short notice and it becomes another testimony for God. In Jesus Name, Amen.


Loonybunny

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Thu, 06-26-2008 - 7:36pm
Could you have a yard sale?