I have a prayer request

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Registered: 03-25-2003
I have a prayer request
Fri, 08-08-2003 - 4:32pm
My eldest daughter was just recently engaged. We knew it was coming, he asked for her hand. However, we also knew we basically had 2 choices, we could say no, and then have them go an elope, or we could say yes, and hope the receive our guidance into pre-marrital counseling, timing, etc. WEll it was all looking pretty good for a while, but now things are falling into areas we are not so happy with. For one we are non-denmontional, born-again believers, and he is Methodist. At first glance you don't feel that is really unevenly yoked, however the closer you get, the more you do. She is Spirit filled, open worship, believes in speakig in tongues and gifts of the spirit. He is not really isn't grasping this "spirit-filled thing", quiet reserved worship, and feels uncomfortble with people who speak in tongues and lost on the gifts being attainable. She is now questioning her beliefs. Wondering if she ever really was ever prayed over to receive the Holy spirit! Well, duh! yes she was! both as a young teen,13 and again when she was 17! And now she can't remember?She is only 18(soon to be 19)now! See, he wants his pastor to perform the ceremony at his church. WE agreed to have the ceremony at his church, but with the pastor of our choosing, wanting him to be a spirit filled pastor, who is also an old friend of ours, and the one who is doing the pre-marrital counseling. Sara has shut down and is only giving me "tiny" details of everything. If you knew the relationship we've had all her life you would see how disturbing this is to me! We have ALWAYS been close and very open with our relationship. I don't know quite how to handle this. I know that some of you here have mentioned issues with you and hubby wanting to attend 2 different churches. Is there anything you have to say that would be valuable to this situation? Any mom's who have already married off some of your children? I need a hug, and some advice before lose her altogether! The wedding is planned for next June. Thanks, Karen

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-10-2003 - 2:52pm
I have no advice for you, Karen, but I know that everything will work out because you are seeking help from the Lord and from His children who have been through this. I pray that you stay prayerful and positive through it all!