Relationship Prayer

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Registered: 06-29-2010
Relationship Prayer
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Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:40pm

Hello all. My bf and I found out that he has a child from a previous relationship. We are working through this. Last night I went to see my pastor and his wife for counceling. After a lot of discussion, they suggested that my bf and I take a separation. They say that I will be able to work through my emotions and figure out if I really want to parent his child and he will have the opportunity to reconcile his past legally and emotionally. This will also give him an opportunity to establish a relationship with his daughter and to step up to be a Godly father without having to choose priorities, me or his child. If I am honest, I want to be selfish and not have the separation, but it sounds smart to me. We can still talk, but not date. We can pray together and work through this without the pressure of the future. I do agree that he needs to reconcile his past before we can have a future.

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Registered: 09-14-2006
Thu, 07-08-2010 - 11:21am

Hello and Welcome!!!

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Registered: 05-23-2010
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 12:39pm

Prayers for the three of you during this time.

 

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Registered: 06-29-2010
Fri, 07-09-2010 - 10:47pm
Thank Ya'll! Fortunately the more I think about he and I raising this child, the more excited I get about it! (Have to actually get married first) :) But I think I will be ok with this. I did suggest the separation to him and he of course disagreed. I will see him a couple more times so that he understands that this is not because I want to be away from him. The opposite, I want to be there for him and help him through this, but I can't. We are not married and as of right now he has more of a commitment to his daughter than to me. Keep praying for us that we get through this ok. I love him with all my heart and can't wait until we are married. My pastor has agreed to talk to him about this and help him through this as well. I know he is hurting right now and I can't do anything about it. Again, thank you and keep praying!!! We will take all we can get!
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Registered: 09-14-2006
Sat, 07-10-2010 - 7:36pm
Praying for you both!
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