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|Wed, 07-07-2010 - 11:40pm|
Hello all. My bf and I found out that he has a child from a previous relationship. We are working through this. Last night I went to see my pastor and his wife for counceling. After a lot of discussion, they suggested that my bf and I take a separation. They say that I will be able to work through my emotions and figure out if I really want to parent his child and he will have the opportunity to reconcile his past legally and emotionally. This will also give him an opportunity to establish a relationship with his daughter and to step up to be a Godly father without having to choose priorities, me or his child. If I am honest, I want to be selfish and not have the separation, but it sounds smart to me. We can still talk, but not date. We can pray together and work through this without the pressure of the future. I do agree that he needs to reconcile his past before we can have a future.