Updates and decisions

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Updates and decisions
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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 8:14am

Well, Chris and I went to the counselor.

 

Kristi

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 10:09am
((HUG)) Having made a solid decision relieves so much of the stress & tension. I'm so sorry that this is how your marriage has worked out. I'm sorry that he can't move forward for looking back. Remind me of Lots' wife turning to look at the cities of Sodom and Gomara, knowing that she is not supposed to. He is missing out on something wonderful and it sounds like he knows it. That being said, what is your new plan for life? Are you staying in the area where you are now? Are you moving closer to your parents? I am praying for you daily. God will provide you with all you need.

Your sister in Christ,


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Mon, 05-12-2008 - 5:41pm

My (((friend)))


Having been through hanging in limbo myself, I can relate to the relief of knowing that you know! Even when what you know is hard, at least now you can make a plan and move on. You are always in my prayers and you know you have my heart! I am praying for the kids and the adults in this case. You both will need a lot of prayer as you all forge out your new paths..... I love you!!


Isn't good to know, that you will be OK? Just don't lose sight of Gods will for you.


(((hugs)))

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 1:19am

I must say that this side of the coin is much better.

 

Kristi

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:18am
(((Kristi))) I love hearing how selfless you are.
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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:33am

Hugs to you. I know it's hard to bear his accusations of talking to someone else. It's a classic self-justification move, same as his refusal to forgive you for the distant past. By blaming you, he can feel better about himself. You know: "Well, yeah, I'm doing this, but SHE did it first. And I think she's STILL doing it."

Hang in there and keep God at the focal point. Only He can give you His love for Chris.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 9:53am

Christi,


I am sorry that you are going through so much. Maybe now that some of the decisions have been made youmay feel more in control of things and able to concentrate on you and the kids with less pressure.My DH used to "talk" to a special friend of his as well, and his excuse at the time was he was that I have always stayed on good terms with my exBFs...well our counsellor saw right through that excuse. My DH has struggled with addictions over his life and the counsellor said he was addicted to the female attention he was getting.Sounds to me like your DH is using the things that happened years


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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 11:59am
Hon, you didn't hijack any post here........Your input is just as relevant and so are your life situations! Glad you chimed in!! ((hugs))

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:29pm
Ditto to Karen.

 

Kristi

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.

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Tue, 05-13-2008 - 6:59pm
Wow! What a blessing that I should check this board TODAY and read THIS post!

In my marriage (2001-2006), my DH cheated. It started out with flirting with girls he worked with. That usually ended when he changed jobs, so I learned to tolerate that (though I did let him know it made me uncomfortable). Then it turned into going to dinner after work with one... then out to bars with her and some other "friends" from work

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Wed, 05-14-2008 - 10:45am
Yes, history has a way of repeating itself unless there is radical change.

 

Kristi

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.