Had a vasectomy, but having doubts
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|Sun, 07-09-2006 - 11:07pm|
Hello, I'm new to this board and looking for wisdom/advice. I am 36 y.o. and have three beautiful, healthy children (6, 4, 17 months). DH is 45 and had a vasectomy a few months ago after several discussions about whether or not we are done having children. At the time, I felt sad that we were making this permanent decision, but was so tired and overwhelmed with the children, house, etc. that I agreed. Now, I am not so sure.
It is so hard to think of letting go of the beautiful cycle of pregnancy, birth, and babies. I've had great pregnancies and two great births (the first was very difficult). I love to see the interaction between my children and look forward to watching those relationships grow. After three kids, I feel as if I finally appreciate having children and realize how precious and sacred life is.
But, I also know what it's like to be up every few hours nursing, or taking care of sick kids. I've felt frustrated because I've had to give up or postpone other things I enjoy because I have young children. I wonder, too, if God wants to use this desire to have more children to lead us to adopt a child.
Can anyone relate to these feelings? Is this just something every woman goes through when she stops having children? I would appreciate hearing the perspective of other women.