help with wife stay /go what?

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Registered: 05-18-2005
help with wife stay /go what?
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 1:30pm
I am back i wrote about ayear ago with my situation it had gone from bad to worse. I am married to my second wife of 5 years. She is very attached to her mother who had determined that i am not good for her daughter and therefore I am not allowed at their house or to have any kind of association with them.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Wed, 08-20-2008 - 6:42pm

This is such a tough situation. I personally cna't understand why your MIL who apearently is a professed Christian cant get past this and see that she is breaking a family apart...

If you love your wife, and she loves you, you two NEED to work this out together. I understand her not wanting to lose her mom, but she already has. If her mom is not trusting her daughter to some degree in this situation, he mom isn't showing her love. I didn't care for my SIL when my daughter married him. They both knew it, however I never cut off my daughter and I told my sil was welcome into our home until he behaved in a manner that was disprespectful of my daughter or husband. It was rough going for the first 2 years, but in time he proved himself to care for my daughter in ways of providing, and caring for her. Thats what I needed to see. We now have a decent relationship. I wish I had solid answers for you.

I guess I'd like to ask, what is it about you that she didn't like? Do you provide? Are you a good husband? A good father? Sometimes we need to start at us. See where we might have room for improvement. I know its sounds strange but if we search ourselves and ask God to change our hearts and show us where we can better display His love, the people around us seem to change too.

I'll be praying for you~

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11