How do I know if this is God's will?
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|Thu, 07-13-2006 - 6:40pm|
3 yrs ago my inlaws moved two hrs away from us on the other side of the state (Gd Rapids area in MI). We are close to them, so it has been hard to have them farther away, esp now that we have a 9 mo old. They miss him SOOO much and have always told us we should move out there. My MIL keeps telling me that she also wants us out there so she can watch Morgan full time free while we work. I know she would too. We usually see them once a month and it is a nice getaway when we spend time out there. It is a much nicer area and is growing a lot. There are A LOT more jobs out there and better opportunities. Our side of the state seems to be going downhill. My DH and I have tossed around the idea before. Part of me doesn't want to leave my parents and family, but it isn't like we'd be moving that far. I know that if it meant that we would have a better life, they'd want that for us.
My DH and I both have BA's and I have a pretty good paying job that I enjoy most of the time. My DH works about 45 min away because he can't find anything in our area. And the job he does have isn't that great and not what he wants to be doing with his degree. Trouble is, there is NOTHING around here. If I look online in my inlaws area there are tons of ads for jobs. We have a small older house in a decent neighborhood, but the school system is not where I would want Morgan to go at all. We are putting some money away for his college and our retirement, but not nearly what we probably should. We do what we can. We have had our student loans in deferrment for awhile because paying them back is going to be rough since we have so much and we've been hoping that maybe my DH will find a job that pays more. We have an ok savings, but it seems we can't get it where we want it to be. I'm not saying we're poor, but we definately could be doing better.
Most of me really wants to run with this and move out of here. I think the only thing that keeps us here is my side of the family, and the fact that we have an awesome church and group of friends that we have a lot in common with. But it's not like we wouldn't see them again...just not as much. Sometimes I think maybe there is a reason my DH parents moved...maybe God has a plan for us that we can't see yet. Seems like I forget about it for awhile but the desire always comes back when I think about the fact that our life would probably be so much better out there.
I know it will be A LOT of work to relocate. I'm not sure what the process would be...selling/buying houses and getting jobs. My inlaws have said that we can always stay with them in between getting a new house.
So basically what it comes down to is this...should we stay where we are "comfortable" and continue with our somewhat difficult situation (which will be worse when we have to start paying st loans back next year!)...where my family and our good friends are...or do we take a leap of faith and move where we will most likely have better jobs, free child care (one on one for our son vs day care) and probably nicer things?? This would really be a big undertaking, but I just can't stop thinking that it is probably in our best interest. And if it I keep having this desire, how do I know if it is God?