I knew it was coming.

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I knew it was coming.
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:40am
I received the note yesterday from the teacher asking me to stop by this morning and speak with her. The school says that Jesse may be retained in 1st grade. He's on the bubble of being where he needs to be but is lacking in concentration. Being the youngest in the class, his teacher feels his age is the major issue here. He won't be 7 till October. We're good with holding him back. I have 2 brothers who had learning disabilities and I want to avoid what my parents went thru when they were in school. DH and I have prayed about it and left it in God's hands. I feel good about keeping him back. We had already talked to Jesse about the possibility of going thru 1st grade again so he is also prepared. The teacher said that she was retaining 2 other boys too, both with late birthdays. She said that in her 18 years of teaching, she has noticed that little boys with late birthdays seem to be the ones that have trouble concentrating. She's a wonderful teacher and I value her advice as a teacher and as a christian mother of 5 children (4 sons, 1 daughter). I know it's best for Jesse and I only want whats best. Keep us in your prayers as we let him know tonight that he will for sure be staying back. Thanks,
Robin

Robin

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 10:12am
You will look back at this decision and say it was the best decision you ever made. Holding him back is really just helping him forward. If he struggles through the next year, you will find he struggles the whole way. Where allowing him to stay back and really understand what he is learning will give him strong confidence in himself. He will catch onto new things next year much faster than the rest of his class. I'm sure it will be ok. Jesse may even be relieved to know he is going to be the smartest kid in class next year because he already knows what they will be teaching.

 

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:19am
Ditto to Kristi's post. Keeping a child back is gonna help them in the long run. I'm glad to hear Jesse's fine with the decision.




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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 11:33am

Much better now than later - especially if the concentration is effecting his reading.

Mary 

 

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 1:24pm
I agree with the others. This is the best time to have to hold him back. He is young enough that I do not think there will be that stigma there that is there with an older child and he will benefit from getting a better grasp of the basics before moving on. I imagine that is a tough decision to make but I think your right to make it. I am sure that God honors us making tough choices for the good of our children. Can he have the same teacher next year? She sounds wonderful and seems to really care about what happens to him.






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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 3:05pm
I truly appreciate each and everyone of you ladies. ((HUGS ALL AROUND)) I do feel we've made the best decicion for Jesse. Joshua has always been an accelerated learner. He loves complexity and books, anything that is complicated holds him. Jesse has always been so laid back, he's just a happy child no matter the situation. Next year he won't be the smallest in the class and he will have the advantage of having already been thru the curriculum once. I'm not sure if he'll get the same teacher or not but the other 1st grade teacher taught Josh last year and she is awesome too. I appreciate all the support and words of encouragement because I have to admit, now that it is set that he will be retained, I feel sorry for the little guy. I know its for the best or we wouldn't have agreed. I think God's mighty hand is at work here. Thanks again for the support!

Robin

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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 3:17pm

I'm chiming in late, but I agree!


I held my eldest daughter back who has a october b-day it was a really choice for her. She's now in Shippensburg University and averaging a 3.90!


You will be happy with your choice! :)



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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 12:33pm
I am sorry to hear about this situation. However, I must thank you for sharing. I have a son, who's bday is in November. I thank you for the warning. I have a friend who teaches and she says that exact same thing that your son's teacher told you about little boys and holding them back.
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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 1:14pm
I'm settling into the reality more today. I'm very satisfied with the decision and think in the long run, Jesse will be able to excel in school. Thanks!

Robin