I think I'm going crazy!!!

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I think I'm going crazy!!!
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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 11:51am
I swear I think I'm on the verge of a nervous breakdown! DH and I were married in December, so we were very suprised when we found out we were pregnant in January. After talking about it for a few weeks, we decided that our one bedroom apartment could never accomodate three of us. So in order to save some money we decided to move in with my parents. This sounded like a great idea... at the time. I mean, we would be putting almost $1000 a month into savings, and it would only be 2 or 3 months max! Well, we're into our second week at my parents house, and I'm losing it!!! My dad has no idea what the word "boundaries" means! And I HATE MY JOB!!! To top it all off. There I've ranted, but I still don't feel any better, because I have no clue in what direction to go. I just want to go "home" and cry until I can't cry anymore. I'm so miserable.... I thought newlywed life would be wonderful, but it's not... And I can't tell DH that b/c then he feels like it's his fault. When in reality, it's no one's fault... I'm not sure what to do. I want to quit my job, but if I do that then we can't afford a house or DH would have to get a second job, which he's offered to do. But I can't be that selfish (even though it's sounding extremely appealing on this Monday morning with my allergies and hormones in full swing!)
If you've made it this far thanks for listening. And if you've got any advice, please feel free to leave it.
thanks,
becky

 


Lilypie Expecting a baby Ticker
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:02pm

Oh Becky, hang in there! Continue to pray for God to open the right door for you and DH in regards to home ownership. We lived with my parents for 9 weeks while waiting on our property to become available. There was me, DH and our 2 sons living in one bedroom. Hard to do but we did it. Please remember that your dad is probably having a hard time adjusting but he will and so will you and DH. Hang in there. God will provide the right place when the time is right. Congrats on expecting a wee one! What a ray of hope, eh?

Robin

Robin

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Registered: 01-23-2007
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 12:04pm
I can't begin to imagine how you feel (married/out of parents' house 8.5 years, no kids), but you hit the nail on the head when you mentioned hormones being in full swing.
The other ladies on here who have kids will be a great deal more help than I, since they've BTDT with the pregnancy/hormone thing. But I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 3:50pm

((Becky)) Take a deep Breath!


Your hormones are driving some of this, yes, but then there is the reality that this just sucks! lol..and thats OK to admit!


I am married for 22 years now ( sheesh!:S) and when we were first married we lived with my in laws who had no idea that boundries even exsisted! We lived there for my whole pregnancy and then 3 months longer! OYVAY! At least you have YOUR parents who know you, and you know them well. Sit down with mom and discuss this whole boundry thing

"I know my plans for you"declares the Lord. "Plans to prosper you,  and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future" Jeremiah 29:11