Looking for a new church AGAIN
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|Sun, 07-11-2010 - 1:07pm|
I've been lurking around here with occasional posts.
When I lived in Chicago I went to a wonderful church. It was a Baptist church but I didn't go to it for the denomination but for their doctrine, the way the pastor spoke and the way I was being fed. It was home.
Seven years ago I moved to Southeast Alabama with my husband to be near his family and have been having a hard time finding a church I feel that way in. I realized a while ago that I was too busy comparing and not noticing what that church had to offer but here churches start up and fold every week and most churches are store front churches which I have no problem with but those are the least stable.
We tried a Baptist church and loved the pastor but every week they pushed membership and came to our house or called several times a week to talk membership. My husband, even though a believer will not join a church even if he's gone to it for years.
After we left there we moved about 25 miles farther south and went to a church where the pastor stood in front of everyone and said he knows how much money the people make and the lifestyles they lead and knows who's tithing appropriately and who isn't. That did it for me and that church. I do believe in tithing but I don't feel the pastor has a right to say that while in the pulpit.
We finally found a church that we were beginning to feel at home in and I working with the youth pastor to improve the youth group to bring in more kids and be able to separate the age groups a bit rather than having 5-16 year olds in the same group. About a month ago the pastor announced they didn't have the money to pay the youth pastor anymore so that was his last week. This was news to the elders of the church and several were very upset. After that his messages got deep into tithing and we were told if we have money set aside to pay our electric bill but couldn't give to the church we should use that money and give it to the church because God will bless us and if we didn't obey God and tithe as he commanded God will turn his back on us and won't answer our prayers. As I said I do believe in tithing but I also believe God expects us to be good stewards of His money and if He gave us that money to meet our obligations and pay our bills are we not being good stewards if we don't follow through with that or is that the human in me and I'm not trusting God enough that. I'm in a catch 22 here.
I do need to mention that the pastor has been on a "get rid of the Muslem's" crusade for many months. There are several mosques in our area and he wants them shut down. He's been having meetings with other pastors and says that the Mulsems are out to destroy this country and we need to step up and do something.
Well, last week the pastor announced he was resigning. I know the church is in trouble and we've lost many members which I think might be due to his anti Muslem speeches but I may be wrong. There's a new pastor who's suppose to be there next week with the congretation of his existing church. Again the elders were in shock as none of them were told about this decision. This is a decision the pastor made on his own.
The new pastor and his church have a website and in reading it I'm not too comfortable with some of the "regulations" I realize there are different types of churches where some the women don't wear slacks or the members aren't to listen to secular music or even contemporary christian music. Those aren't churches I'd go to. I feel it should be a "come as you are" atmosphere. Yes, there are some things I wouldn't do such as wear shorts to church but that's my decision and I feel nobody should be wearing cut offs or jeans with holes in them but if that's who they are and they won't come to church if they had to change then the church should accept them as is.
The church I attend had people of all races and backgrounds and they were welcome. We had bikers who would come in their Harley Davidson T's and leather jackets but they were in church. It seems this new church won't allow that.
So, now we're back to trying to find another new church. Boy how I miss my old church in Chicago.
I guess I'm not really asking for advice here, just needed to vent a bit. We're praying that God will lead us where He wants us and if it's to church with the new pastor we'll continue going there but right now I'm afraid my stubbornness is getting in the way of hearing God's voice if He's trying to tell me anything at all right now.