married? please help!

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Registered: 10-31-2006
married? please help!
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Tue, 10-31-2006 - 6:43pm

I'm in a college class on intimate relationships and have to conduct a study on couple communication and marital satisfaction. I need to have the survey results in order to write my paper. I'd really appreciate your help!! Please fill this out and e-mail it to me at hollyberry724@hotmail.com or you can just respond with your answers.

Thanks a bunch!
hollyberry724

Couple Communication and Marital Satisfaction Questionnaire

Age of Husband:

Age of Wife:

Amount of Time Dating Before Marriage:

Length of Marriage:

Please rate the following items on a scale of 1 (poorly) - 10 (well)

1. _____ How well do you and your spouse listen to each other, understand each other, and express empathy
2. _____ How well do you and your spouse express positives about each other and show affection toward each other
3. _____ How well do you and your spouse share your feelings with each other
4. _____ How well do you and your spouse share what is bothering you without blaming or attacking each other
5. _____ How well do you and your spouse make requests of each other

Please rate the following items on a scale of 1 (low) – 10 (high)

1. _____ Level of comfort you feel with your spouse
2. _____ Level of excitement you feel about your relationship with your spouse
3. _____ Level of connection you feel with your spouse
4. _____ Level of affection you feel toward your spouse
5. _____ Level of attraction you feel toward your spouse

Communication

How often do you and your spouse talk about the way in which you communicate with each other?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Division of Labor
How often do you and your spouse talk about the division of household tasks?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Parenting

How often do you and your spouse talk about different aspects of parenting (for example: how many children to have, who will care for your children, how to discipline your children)?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Money

How often do you and your spouse talk about your finances?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Time

How often do you and your spouse talk about how you spend your time (including the amount of time you spend together and activities during that time)?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Faith

How often do you and your spouse talk about religiosity or spirituality (including beliefs, practices, and importance)?
__________________________________________________________________________
How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Wed, 11-01-2006 - 11:58am

Hi, hollyberry~~

Thanks for visiting the board.

Though you're asking these questions for a class, I feel a little uncomfortable having them on the board. However, I'm glad you posted your e-mail address for anyone to respond to your questionnaire. If anyone wants to participate, that's great.

Blessings,

Shelly




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Registered: 10-06-2010
Thu, 11-02-2006 - 7:44pm

Age of Husband:27

Age of Wife:23
Amount of Time Dating Before Marriage:8 years

Length of Marriage: 4 months

Please rate the following items on a scale of 1 (poorly) - 10 (well)

1. ___9__ How well do you and your spouse listen to each other, understand each other, and express empathy
2. ____9_ How well do you and your spouse express positives about each other and show -affection toward each other
3. ___9__ How well do you and your spouse share your feelings with each other
4. ___8__ How well do you and your spouse share what is bothering you without blaming or attacking each other
5. __9___ How well do you and your spouse make requests of each other

Please rate the following items on a scale of 1 (low) – 10 (high)

1. __10___ Level of comfort you feel with your spouse
2. __10___ Level of excitement you feel about your relationship with your spouse
3. ___10__ Level of connection you feel with your spouse
4. ___10__ Level of affection you feel toward your spouse
5. ___10__ Level of attraction you feel toward your spouse

Communication

How often do you and your spouse talk about the way in which you communicate with each other?
Not often really, we have no issues talking with eachother when there is problems.

How long do these conversations last?
__________________________________________________________________________
What do you talk about during these conversations?
__________________________________________________________________________
__________________________________________________________________________

Division of Labor
How often do you and your spouse talk about the division of household tasks?

Again not often, I do most of the housework currently because he works 40 hours and I am out of work. Since we have moved out together we have had one conversation about household chores.
How long do these conversations last?
The one we had was about 10 minuets and went like. Me: I would like you to help me a little more around the house. Him: Ok, I never know what to do since you always take care of things. I'll help more, I'm sorry. Me: great thank you.

What do you talk about during these conversations?
See above

Parenting

How often do you and your spouse talk about different aspects of parenting (for example: how many children to have, who will care for your children, how to discipline your children)?

We don't want children.

How long do these conversations last?

We never have set converstations about this.

What do you talk about during these conversations?
We talk about our feelings and reasons and how we are sure our decision is right for us.

Money

How often do you and your spouse talk about your finances?

Not usually, I pay half the bills and he pays the other half.
How long do these conversations last?
About 10 minuets. Me: Hey you owe me X for bills this month. Him: OK
What do you talk about during these conversations?

Just what is due and when and we both complain about how expensive everything is!
Time

How often do you and your spouse talk about how you spend your time (including the amount of time you spend together and activities during that time)?

Every day, we always ask each other what are the plans for the day, when do you work, what are you doing, how was your day

How long do these conversations last?
a few minuets.

What do you talk about during these conversations?
Just basic, how was your day type of talk or when do you work, how long will you be gone, what do you want to do tonight.

Faith

How often do you and your spouse talk about religiosity or spirituality (including beliefs, practices, and importance)?

Never.