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|Thu, 05-03-2007 - 12:53am|
I found this board tonight after I had a sense to ask for advice.
Here is my situation.
I have been in a relationship for 3 years to the man I thought I would one day marry. We have a baby girl who is now 1 year old. We have had our ups and downs like any other couple. We broke up on April 1st and within a week I found out he was with a new girl. That lasted about 3 weeks.
After that ended with the other girl he decided that he wanted to "date" me. No commitment, just "see where it goes".
The past couple of weeks he has begun going to church and really getting in touch with God. I am thrilled about this. Tonight he called me to tell me how much he feels like we are tied together and we need to keep all of the outside influences out of our relationship. Then he decided to confess a few things.
First, he confessed that he has been doing drugs for years. After finding God he has not been doing them. Second, he confessed that within our 3 year relationship he has been intimate with 4-6 other women. He said he doesn't remember the exact number because of the drugs. He basicly wants me to accept that he "went out on a limb" and confessed these things to me b/c it is what God wants so we can rebuild our relationship with no secrets. He doesn't want me to be upset or force him to deal with how upset I am with this news. I am so unbelievably lost as to what to do or think. I just have this overwhelming numbness. How can I rebuild a relationship with no trust. How can I get past this, when I'm not sure if I even want to waste my time on him anymore. He is so unapologetic. Like is a fact that now I know about and need to accept or not.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I absolutely believe in the power of God to transform people but, how?
Thank You So Much.