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|Wed, 12-17-2008 - 11:27am|
I am writing seeking some advice/words of encouragement or prayer. I am in my late 20s and in a relationship with a very loving man. Sometimes though, he is "too loving" and I feel bad about feeling this way. He tells me he loves me and misses me all day everyday, but sometimes I am just not feeling the same way. I am not a very "mushy" woman. He isn't a church-goer as I am but he finally agreed to go to church with me Sunday. The problem is, I feel like he smothers me. I have prayed to God to send me a caring man and my singles ministry even had us write up a list of characteristics and behaviors we wanted in a man. He fits my list almost perfectly accept for that fact that I feel like I can barely breathe around him. He always wants to sit extra close, he does things that annoy me, like sticking his finger in my ear and poking me. I just feel like I can't get a median. I either have boyfriends that give me so much space, usually because they are cheating or I get a man like this that suffocates me. At one time, I truly believed he was the one for me but lately I have been having doubts. We have been arguing for a few weeks now and its starting to weigh heavy on my mind and heart. I have tried praying for peace but it doesn't seem to be happening. I have a promise ring that I wear on my left hand, wedding finger that he gave me, he promises that we'll be engaged next year. I guess I just don't know what to do. I often feel annoyed that we can never just sit in peace but that he always has to be touching me in some sort of way, even if its laying his head on my shoulder. I know that the devil doesn't want me to be happy and wants to make my life miserable. Is it any way to get past these issues and continue on with our courtship and eventually marry? Thanks for taking out the time to read this.