too tired for church

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Registered: 03-04-2007
too tired for church
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Tue, 03-06-2007 - 12:13pm
hello there. I am new to this site, and a first time mom at the age of 23. My son is 6 months old and the light of my life, but i have had a lot of trouble with feeling overwhelmed with all that it entails to take care of him and my husband and home. One area that i have found hard to incorporate into my new mommy life is church. Before the baby, i was on the worship team and sang every sunday. Now, i find it really difficult to even think about going to church on sunday, particularly to sing because i have to be there early and my husband is often working so he cannot be there to help. When i do "suck it up" and go, i often find myself having a panic attack while i am singing...this is very frustrating to me because i love to sing, i'm not nervous, but i just can't seem to overcome this rush of sudden panic. I think that i may be just too tired and overwhelmed by it all, and now i feel like i don't even want to go to church right now cause the baby misses his nap and it messes up the whole day...am i being too infantile about the responsibilities of motherhood? should i be able to handle all of this better? I sure feel that way! help!
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Registered: 02-01-2007
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 3:59pm
I can relate to how you are feeling. Well, not so much about the panic attacks when I sing. I had those before the kids and still today. Someday I will get over those. Anyway, I was a new Christian when my first child was born and my husband was not yet saved. He did attend church with me on Sunday morning but was not disciplined. Besides he is Navy and was gone more than he was home. It was hard to get into the routine of getting an infant to church and it did mess up the baby's schedule. I learned a few things though, one, I need church. I need to be fed that way on a very regular basis and I need it more as a wife and mom then I did when it was just me. I also feel that as young as your child is you are setting an example. My girls love church and I think a lot of that has to do with the fact that it has been a part of their lives since they were baby's. It will be hard now but if you make the effort you will be blessed for it. God wants you in church and he wants your little one there too. Even if you do not sing for a while until you get in the swing of things again. You can take a smaller role for a bit if that is what you need to do but you do need to be there. On the plus side my girls were usually so tired on Mondays they took longer naps and I got tons done. I hope this helps.

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Registered: 06-14-2004
Tue, 03-06-2007 - 4:12pm
I can relate to being too tired to go to church. When my little ones were little, I had no desire to go to church. I would encourage you to go. While your baby is small, don't feel pressure to sing. It may be something you enjoy, but if it is just too much, don't do it for a bit. More important than all of that it may help to network with some moms who have little ones. They are usually good at listening and letting you blow off steam.

 

Kristi

You can't change the past, but you can ruin the present by worrying over the future.